Friday, 3 March 2017

When my kids tell me I'm doing an OK job

Boys on a bridge

I don't know a parent that doesn't wonder if they are doing enough.  Am I a good enough mum? Should I be doing more?  Sometimes even, what should I be doing? There are pictures splattered all over the social media of perfect looking families and happy children.  It's going to be fab photos of kids in their World Book Day costumes not photos of a child crying their eyes out because mum forgot to check parent mail and they've turned up in school uniform.

And why not, surely people aren't that interested in sharing the rough days with everyone all time.   What sort of record of their life are they keeping, not exactly something great to look back on is it? I post this kind of thing of course, but that's a bit about sharing the joys... and the challenges of raising my beautiful kids, some of whom happen to have autism, ADHD and a few other conditions as well.

Every day our school run is a little stressful.  As the boys are both autistic but in different ways, they need different things from school.  So they go to different schools and let's just say the drop off and pick-up timings for the two schools are a bit on the tight side.  Leave the house a few minutes late  and I spend the whole journey on edge...don't be late, don't be late.

It was on a particularly stressful journey one day that had involved the slowest recycling trucks I've ever encountered and a delivery van just randomly parked in a single lane road, that Anthony reminded me that mostly, I'm doing ok.  He'd been especially worried as he had another tooth loose. Anthony is particularly sensitive to the way things feel in his mouth and wobbling a loose tooth almost reduces him to tears.

As we went over an ridiculously large speed bump, he started talking.

"Ohh, that's was close."

"What was darling?"

"By going over the bump, I nearly bumped my tooth."

"Is it very wobbly this morning?"

"Ooohhhh yes, very wobbly."

"Well, make sure you have something soft for lunch to it doesn't hurt too much. And I'll make something soft for dinner too."

"Oh mum."

"Yes Anthony."

"You always make the right things for dinner.  You are very good.  It is always soft and you never ever give it to me too hot because you know it hurts and I don't like it.  Silly you - of course you'll give me soft food. You are very good mum."

Just as the beam of delight spread across my face, Jane also piped up and giggled from the back.

"Yes, you never give me mud to eat, I don't like that."

Then I burst into laughter and the conversation drifted into the fantastical with me asking if they'd like to eat leaves for dinner or rocks or sand.

22 comments:

  1. Ahh I absolutely love this. Mum guilt is present for all of us, sometimes several times a day but those little cute comments that our kids make sometimes just make it disappear. Your kids can see how hard you're working and that's fab xx

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  2. What a lovely/funny thing to happen. I'm glad you've blogged about it and can look back and remember (maybe on one of the harder days). #ftmob

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  3. Aaaw this is lovely :) A little glimpse of a wonderfully happy family moment. Well done, Mama - your kids think you're doing a good job! #ablogginggoodtime

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  4. Oh how utterly and totally adorable - this is such a fuzzy warm feeling kind of post - just love #CoolMumClub

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  5. So gorgeous - how lovely of you to not give him mud for dinner ;-)

    I agree, it's those simple yet magical moments that make you want to burst with love, and pride in the family you've created.

    xx

    Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub

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  6. Oh this is so lovely! Just goes to show it is the simple, everyday things we do that kids appreciate, and appreciate us they do, even if we don't feel it sometimes. #coolmumclub

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  7. What a wonderful conversation. One day you will be so glad you posted it and shared it. Mud, indeed. It sounds like you are doing a brilliant job. #wotw

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  8. This is so lovely, a fab conversation to have during a stressful journey to brighten your day. It doesn't matter how many people tell you you're a good mum, hearing it from your children is what really counts, isn't it? Loved this, thanks for sharing with #WotW x

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  9. Aww love that Anthony told you what a good mum you are and Jane's comment agreeing with him because you never give her mud to eat made me laugh. Thanks for sharing this with #ftmob :-)

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  10. Thats so lovely! What a nice wee boost and just what you must need sometimes pam at www.pamsbakeansbabyblog.com #postsfromtheheart

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  11. Hi Ann, it's the simple things that can make a difference. I can imagine you being the thoughtful Mum, doing your best to avoid an issue and then the whole mood changes. I think your daughter has earned herself a plate of thick porridge flavoured with cocoa.

    #ablogginggoodtime

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  12. I'm grateful I didn't have social media at hand when my children were growing up, all I know is whether i did a good job or not, they are all still alive and reached adult hood and all of them (5) still speak to me through choice #PostsFromTheHeart

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  13. Ha ha ha thats so cute and a lovely little boost that would have made me smile!
    Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime

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  14. This is lovely - we all seem to spend our lives doubting whether we're doing a good job or not, but then the odd funny comment comes out from the little people and it makes it all worthwhile #postsfromtheheart

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  15. Hehe kids do present us with a roller-coaster of emotions. #PostsFromTheHeart

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  16. I love this so much, I have no doubt that you are an incredible mum. Knowing how hard it is to elicit compliments, the ability of your son to give them is further testament to your parenting abilities. I am sure it's something you've worked hard on over the years. Food can be so tricky for our children, getting it right takes great skill - mud and leaves would be easier I think. Thank you so much for sharing such a beautiful post with us at #PostsFromTheHeart

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  17. Aw what a lovely, random conversation! It's always good to laugh when you can isn't it? #pocolo

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  18. My son would love a bowl of mud , throw a few worms in and i would be the best mummy ever. This post has tickled me so much i had to shop my husbands film to read it to him #Postsfromtheheart

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  19. Love this. Little moments like this are just perfect. #pocolo

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  20. little moments, little victories. Important to take them when we can get them! #KCACOLS

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  21. What a lovely little read! As a child nothing terrified me more than a wobbly tooth! Even now the thought makes my stomach churn! #KCACOLS

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