Thursday 14 July 2016

It took five years for my son to kiss me on the lips and I'm not stopping him now

That's right.  Until David was five years old, we didn't kiss on the mouth.  And now he's five and a half years old and we do .. I have absolutely no intention of stopping him.

Despite having a partner who works in the media I came across this rather bizarre 'news' story in The Telegraph about Victoria Beckham kissing her daughter on the lips via other bloggers supporting her actions.  Nothing bizarre about that in my opinion.. the really daft bit is that somehow it seems to have upset people?

The medical advice in another article on The Telegraph website appears to be that you should stop kissing on the mouth so avoid what I can only describe as 'sexual confusion?' as children get older.  However, the expert then goes on to says that most kids have a natural break in mouth kissing before they hit puberty.

When did everyone become so intolerant? If anyone should be judging Mrs Beckham it would seem it should be herself or her daughter.  And she seems to have figured out what she thinks just fine.

My son David has autism.  He started to communicate very late and uses mostly Makaton and noises to 'talk' to us.  Although he knew the Makaton sign for 'kiss', until David was five all he would do when you asked for a kiss was present you with his forehead.  A little after he was five years old he finally got it.  The first time he pursed his lips and presented them for kissing was a massive day of celebration, and I'm not stopping him now. He says 'key' in reply when it's time for a kiss. He said he loved me for the first time last week, I won't be stopping that either!

And its not just David.  I have three kids, Anthony(8), David (5) and Jane (3).  I kiss them all on the lips - the whole family does in fact.  The only one not kissed on the lips was our recently departed family dog. When it no longer feels right for them, or us, we'll stop but I think that will be our decision. Just as it should be for every other loving family. And just as an aside... we all bathe together too... that's right.. naked.

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  1. I dont know what all the fuss is about or why its even newsworthy. Its a completly natural and normal thing for parents to kiss their children on the lips and vice versa if they want to. Why something so normal has to be made into something so sinister is beyond me! Emily #BloggerClubUK

  2. Agree with you here, what is the all the furore over kissing your kids, it's the most natural thing in the world.

    1. We think so. But if it's not natural for someone that's OK too. Whatever works for your family. There's no need to make a fuss over it when someone does something different. Thanks for commenting.

  3. I loved that last line, brilliant! None of this is weird, I find it odd that this is even a thing and, like you, I found out about it via other bloggers. It's loving your kids, which is the most beautiful thing in the world. Thanks for sharing with #WotW

  4. I can't believe this ridiculous story is even in the news, expressing love and affection towards your child is never a bad thing. I chuckled at your last line about naked baths. #WotW

  5. The people who think it's weird are the strange ones...and bathing naked or just roaming around naked, is absolutely normal. I'll only stop if the kids feel embarrassed when they are a bit older x #TheList

  6. I saw the 'news' but until i just read your blogpost, i didn't even know what it was all about because i chose to ignore it as a load of rubbish! And thats all ive got to say on the matter! #wotw :)

  7. I don't understand why that picture caused so much fuss. I'm 37 and still kiss my mum on the lips when I say hello and goodbye. As long as you're all happy with it, what's the problem. Love that David now puckers up for a kiss and says "key" in reply. Definitely no reason that I can see to stop. Thank you for linking up to #ftmob :-)

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