tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-53496680443263136002024-03-18T05:37:22.904-07:00RainbowsaretoobeautifulA mum writes about kids, autism, special educational needs (SEND), ADHD and moreAnn Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comBlogger717125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-27834733440244875512024-02-15T07:39:00.000-08:002024-02-15T07:39:22.400-08:00Coping with a change in his special interest<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWSYiG-EYmb9sm7GnwD6FF3DNka5Jd2C9yfDrkpcY6exnbw6ytI_IN0kykBggsJb-16Spb4ZmGJ5jFxRZCZPU8sHw2mUlmNk5_EyWvFGf_BXOWYlApoVxiidPcZEkFWblG-zs9J56dnXGDet3qO7yXLr8k9w83feB2EsQ8Ark9Aj3amFi0xO-4ytO5CrA/s2448/IMG_5670.JPG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Boy walking in a Mercedes t-shirt" border="0" data-original-height="2448" data-original-width="2448" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWSYiG-EYmb9sm7GnwD6FF3DNka5Jd2C9yfDrkpcY6exnbw6ytI_IN0kykBggsJb-16Spb4ZmGJ5jFxRZCZPU8sHw2mUlmNk5_EyWvFGf_BXOWYlApoVxiidPcZEkFWblG-zs9J56dnXGDet3qO7yXLr8k9w83feB2EsQ8Ark9Aj3amFi0xO-4ytO5CrA/s320/IMG_5670.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><p>Our son has had a <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/04/autism-obsessions-in-action.html" target="_blank">special interest in cars and racing</a> since he was about seven years old. It's really common for children with autism or ADHD to have something they are 'super in to'. Being very interested in a subject provides Anthony with lots of joy and in some cases it provides comfort in being able to talk about something familiar. Knowing lots about something takes away fear I suppose. </p><p><span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p>When he was younger Anthony used to struggle with watching the actual F1 races. They were exciting but unpredictable and he found this hard. Perhaps that's why he often supports the most successful person in a sport. Some people might call him a glory hunter but imagine the comfort he used to get from following someone he knew would do well. It was helping remove some of the unpredictability of a situation for him if the same people did well in a race. </p><p>It's been years and he has grown in maturity and his ability to cope with different situations has grown too. However, when I heard that Lewis Hamilton was moving from Mercedes to Ferrari next year in F1, I didn't know how he would react. Anthony's F1 idol has been Lewis Hamilton for.. well.. ever. He has more Mercedes (the Team that Hamilton drives for) merch than all the rest of his clothing combined. What would this news means to him. Would be continue to support Lewis at another Team, stick with the Team or throw all his clothes out for now being 'wrong'.</p><p>Surprisingly no. He has taken the move in his stride. His knowledge of the whole area giving confidence I guess. <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/03/sons-special-interest-letter.html" target="_blank">He was into karting when younger</a> too so he knows even more than most about the sport and progression within in it. He'll even be old enough to drive soon. We had to change our car recently when the ULEZ expanded. And as we were looking around for our second hand car at places like autotrader or <a href="https://www.edmunds.com/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">edmunds</span></a> we thought about how Anthony may one day drive this next car we get. </p><p>He's matured so much. There was probably a time in the past when I wondered whether Anthony would be able to drive, or learn to be able to drive. He was unaware of danger until far older than other kids, struggled with coordination in his hands and feet and many things at school. Even though he had this interest in racing and cars I wondered whether he would be safe enough to drive or know enough to pass a test. Never mind all the regular things he would have to do as an adult like handle money. I mean it's something like almost 30% of adults do not budget - would he be able to be independent with his money?</p><p>But as he has grown some of this has come along. Very soon <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/04/should-i-tell-off-another-mum.html" target="_blank">he used rules</a> well to keep himself safe without initially understanding why. He's got a bank card and knows how to use it and he's now doing rock climbing so the coordination has improved obviously. So maybe it should be a surprise that his ability to cope with change has grown too. I know that he'll struggle and need strategies to help with many things in life sometimes. But, his ability to cope with change is now routine almost, even with the things he finds most important. And this is something I'm ever so pleased to see. </p>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-54234375767059313422024-01-20T01:48:00.000-08:002024-01-20T01:48:58.895-08:00The impact of a shortage of ADHD meds<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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When Anthony was seven years old we asked for him to assessed for ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) because despite all the help he was getting he could not settle or concentrate in class. Six months later he started a controlled stimulant drug to help him concentrate at school. For the next five years Anthony had them everyday, not just when he was at school because without them he would fall apart. ADHD meds have been in short supply recently and are not always thought of as being important, but to Anthony they were about his survival. <br />
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Anthony has an amazing mind. I love it and him to pieces. He was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) around the age of four years old. He founds many things more difficult than his peers. Few things were intuitive for him. But he also often saw things from a different perspective. Like us all, he is unique.<br />
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Around the age of six we realised all the techniques being used to help him focus him and his sensory system weren’t very effective. Anthony was spending almost as much time out of class doing various exercises as he was in class and still fidgeted as soon as he was back in. And I thought, <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2015/12/art-neuro.html" target="_blank">maybe Anthony has ADHD</a>?<br />
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I was right. On a scale where more than 70/100 was enough for diagnosis, Anthony scored 94. It wasn’t easy but we decided to try Anthony on <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/04/medicating-my-autistic-adhd-kids.html#more" target="_blank">medication to help him focus</a> at school. His Teaching Assistants were supportive but not convinced. Within six months the teaching assistants were completely on board with comments like, “I’m not sure he’d still be in school if he hadn’t started on his medication.” <br />
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Because, the medication helped Anthony focus. It helped him control himself. His ability to focus and particularly to control himself (at least some of the time) is obviously important at school. but it is more important than that. He still wants to operate outside of school. He still wants to function and he still wants to enjoy the things he likes. And this was not just hard, but sometimes impossible for him without his ADHD medication.<br /><br /><div>When he was younger this was about his play. <div><br /></div><div>He loves playing <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2018/07/an-england-penalty-shootout-for-our.html" target="_blank">football</a> in the garden. But without his meds he can't focus and gets over excited and boots the ball over the fence. He can't understand why it happens. The third time he does it without meaning too, he bursts into tears..."Why can't I control myself"<br />
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He loves watching movies, particularly those with <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2017/03/that-will-make-them-even-more-like-me.html" target="_blank">superheros</a>. But without his meds he can't keep track of even the most basic plot and has no clue what's happening.<br />
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He loves being in a warm paddling pool on a hot day. But without his meds he forgets to be careful, flails about and hurts himself or siblings.</div><div><br /></div><div>As he grew it became even more important. </div><div><br /></div><div>He wants to have friends. But without his medication, he can't filter what he is saying and offends people. </div><div><br /></div><div>He wants to go to the playground. But without his meds he forgets where he is going or when he is meant to come back. </div><div><br /></div><div>He wants to be independent. But without his medication he can't keep track of anything he owns. </div><div><br /></div><div>The biggest impact of all of this is how it affects his self esteem. It's already hard being different in a way people don't get. Add failing in over and over again and it can have a serious impact on his mental health. Soon, medication isn't just about being able to have fun.. it's about being able to function, being able to be confident... being able to cope with how you feel. Being able to get through a day without wishing it hadn't happened. </div></div><div><br /></div><div>ADHD medication isn't right for everyone. There are lots of different types and it doesn't work for everyone or for everyone all the time. As people with ADHD move their lives, their needs may change just like anyone else. Anthony ended up coming off his medication. We were able to help him develop other methods of controlling and organising himself. </div><div><br /></div><div>He still doesn't get it right a lot of the time but he is doing well and I'm so pleased with him. However, had he not had access to ADHD medication at the time he needed it, we would have struggled and I'm not sure we'd have the lad with a positive outlook on life that currently looking forward to college and playing online with his friends. </div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-69837116440444028262023-11-15T07:11:00.000-08:002024-01-31T23:39:10.621-08:00Helping my autistic son to have more responsibility<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOmcjF-DObgtoS8w2MhDP7uOmeUkCd_1D_S_jaLNRmsWA4HbtMXhlt_of-M0oGuyoc8RabRg8kktu3MguErupmYs34VleTuIzWNWwKodMk_0Tw_hSHiWQ56JdRngj3UX_3F9yA69ZYROQ/s426/shoes-g9215b8809_640.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Teenage shoes" border="0" data-original-height="426" data-original-width="426" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiOmcjF-DObgtoS8w2MhDP7uOmeUkCd_1D_S_jaLNRmsWA4HbtMXhlt_of-M0oGuyoc8RabRg8kktu3MguErupmYs34VleTuIzWNWwKodMk_0Tw_hSHiWQ56JdRngj3UX_3F9yA69ZYROQ/s320/shoes-g9215b8809_640.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><p></p>There's been a lot of focus on schools and qualifications for teenagers over the last few years - and rightly so. But being a teenager can mean learning a lot more than just academics. For many kids this is the time they need to learn about being responsible for themselves, learning the life skills they will need to become as independent as possible. For some it will be learning about budgeting and time keeping for others this might be being able to make a meal or get dressed independently. <span><a name='more'></a></span><div><br /></div><div>I've got three very different kids. <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2021/05/as-my-autistic-son-becomes-teenager.html" target="_blank">My eldest son is an autistic teenager</a> and although most of the time he doesn't appear that different to his neurotypical peers, he is. And he needs help learning the skills he'll need to be independent. He is desperate to be responsible for himself, but this means he needs to have a certain level of confidence and self-awareness and that he'll have the tools to succeed. Hopefully this means that he will have better relationships, happier friendships and be able to handle himself better, too. </div><div><br /></div><div>From helping them to learn the best decision-making skills, to ensuring that your teenager is able to carry themselves as well as they can, you are going to be the reason your teenager gets to adulthood in one piece. So, with this in mind, here are some things we'll be helping our teenager to learn. <br /><br /><b>Laundry</b></div><div>Some <a href="https://www.todaysparent.com/family/parenting/why-your-teen-needs-to-do-laundry-and-how-to-make-it-happen/" target="_blank">parents don't teach their teenagers how to wash their clothes</a>. While me washing their clothes when they are children is of course fine, they need to be responsible for their own clothes. They'll need to know how to wash their own clothes eventually but we can start by giving our eldest the responsibility for example to tell me if he needs something washed for a particular day or occasion. Otherwise it's pot luck as it comes through the laundry. Folding clothes and putting them away is another task and for our kids they might all have to be taught separately. </div><div><br /><b>Grocery shopping</b></div><div>Many families will have taken their kids shopping multiple times over the years but it's not always the case when you have autistic kids. Super markets can be overwhelming for many autistic people so starting at smaller shops can often be helpful. Even with that there's lots involved in shopping. You can show your teenagers how to write a shopping list according to the needs of the house, and you can talk about what they like to eat at different times of the day. We've talked about best before/use by dates with our eldest so he knows what order to eat the food in that's in the cupboard. </div><div><br /><b>Organisation</b></div><div>We often take over to get their butts moving in the mornings, but for some of our kids we'll have to pass the responsibility to them and let them self-manage. From alarm clocks to voice notes, you can help your teenager to get into a good routine with themselves and enable them to get up and out of bed in the morning. It's not always easy to <a href="https://yourteenmag.com/teenager-school/teens-high-school/time-management-for-teens" target="_blank">help your teenager learn time management</a>, but this is going to help them to be more self-aware and this will be a skill that sees them far into the future.<br /></div><div><br /><b>Cleaning</b></div><div>As well as all the other daily chores that we need to teach our teenager to handle, we have to consider their own cleaning abilities. This isn't just their room - but the whole thing about <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2019/01/keeping-our-sensory-kids-clean-and.html" target="_blank">cleaning themselves</a>. When they were younger we could just dip them in a bath and it would be ok but now with teenage bodies they need to learn about ablutions, deodorant and so on. A routine chart can help some kids be more independent with this. </div><div><br /></div><div><b>Supporting Siblings</b></div><div>It's easy as a teenager to get tied up in what they are doing. But this is the time when the idea of responsibility could be taken further. our younger daughter often will already 'watch' one of her autistic siblings while we are in the other room to let us know if they need help. But this idea can work the other way too. The idea of watching out for each other and getting help if someone else needs it is a great thing to instil and something that probably comes more naturally than I thought. </div><div><br /></div><div>There's so much to learn to help them become responsible adults, especially when the world isn't set up for kids like ours - if you've got any good advice I'd love to hear it too. </div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-21239678867840219432023-08-31T02:54:00.004-07:002023-09-29T02:30:05.816-07:00Getting the kids ready for going back to school<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2w6WyQ3PshVGz3QUbuyJxQeWJiU5hpGgl-1i55LewKU-dbrqMmCr2HDhMfMzY53r-CvNUqiH5wa5DRk3yvV84aiDoUHxOlJQdm9yKSejIMZqtBg9IjRrUdIkbJ3-I86S15tNIydilav5aN-6GJ7OxWlP1yQCaJkJRHj6ZTKyfcajyNOxtnKJQ1FGmxFo/s425/pexels-andrea-piacquadio-821948.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="425" data-original-width="425" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh2w6WyQ3PshVGz3QUbuyJxQeWJiU5hpGgl-1i55LewKU-dbrqMmCr2HDhMfMzY53r-CvNUqiH5wa5DRk3yvV84aiDoUHxOlJQdm9yKSejIMZqtBg9IjRrUdIkbJ3-I86S15tNIydilav5aN-6GJ7OxWlP1yQCaJkJRHj6ZTKyfcajyNOxtnKJQ1FGmxFo/s320/pexels-andrea-piacquadio-821948.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><p></p>The school summer holidays is always the longest break in routine for our kids. Whilst our kids with autism struggle with these changes, many kids find the transition into and out of school holidays challenging. <span><a name='more'></a></span><br /><br /><b>Remind them of their skills </b><br /><br />Whatever level your child is working at giving them a few reminders of their <a href="https://www.readandspell.com/how-to-improve-writing-skills-for-kids" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">skills</span></a> - of what they can do before returning to the classroom can help. David can match some pictures with words and Jane can spend some time reading. <div><br /></div><div>Jane has also written a small play on the laptop and this is great for thinking about spelling and grammar. We've also involved the kids in simple maths questions when out shopping or doing tasks around the house. It's really just about getting the kids minds working again. <br /><br /><b>Practice with any devices</b><br /><br />Whatever technology the kids use at school that perhaps have got dropped during the holidays can be reintroduced so it's familiar when they get back to the class room. David uses an iPad, Anthony does a lot of work via a chrome book and Jane uses google classroom in school. But it could be anything. </div><div><br /></div><div>It could be that they use one of market <a href="https://www.soapboxlabs.com/technology/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">leaders in the field of speech recognition technology</span></a> or engage with a range of sensory. Whatever it is they might get back into the swing of things with some practice at home.<br /><br /><b>Cut back on holiday routines </b><br /><br />Whether they have been spending extra time watching <a href="https://www.greenspringsschool.com/how-to-prevent-your-kids-from-watching-too-much-tv/#:~:text=The%20fact%20is%20that%20these,for%20a%20long%20time%20regularly." target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">television</span></a>, getting up late or staying up to play, cutting back a little will help when they have to suddenly change routine and get back into one for school. </div><div><br /></div><div>Of course I'm talking about returning to normal daily routines that often go out of the window in the holidays.
We've been travelling lots of the summer, through some time zones and had lots of days out. This has meant we've changed things such and meal times and bed times. The kids have been going to bed later and some mornings have been more relaxed. </div><div><br /></div><div> In the run up to school starting we are trying to get back into the old morning and evening routines. Getting up, getting dressed and having breakfast by 8.30 so that come first day back, it's not such a shock.</div><div><br /><b>
Be prepared for the first day back
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All our kids schools do a really good job in transition prep for the kids. They've all spent time with their new teachers and in their new classrooms. But there are the other things to be ready for.<br /><br />
School uniforms don't just need to be checked for fitting but the kids need to be re familiarised with them. We have them set out, making sure they fit and get their school shoes on their feet at least a few days before hand. School shoes can feel pretty stiff and hard after trainers or sandals during the summer so we try and get the kids senses adjusted a little before hand.</div><div> <br />Have you any suggestions? <br /><br /><br /></div><span><!--more--></span>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-26932648000423718542023-08-04T02:45:00.002-07:002023-08-04T02:47:16.067-07:00Taking my kids to the Falconry display and crafting a barn owl family<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUfiZFpdtZXW3fm3biLNA5KZrzzwJyyazVgYd84fzcRzvGG4ci13ksw7MeyChRtD8-lgNUr9n1mSLg5gCV3x-CJFfypkksKr2D7wuTVVtGm-1HwR9cQ-XdteqYKTKdmY5GhfLr_6wZfVJ9vc-rl6BusYoVpE56-U2PXCZJVSuRlyfEkp1-AYKxqYYA_pk/s521/thumbnail_Barn%20Owl%20-%20Free%20photo%20on%20Pixabay%20-%20Pixabay.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="500" data-original-width="521" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUfiZFpdtZXW3fm3biLNA5KZrzzwJyyazVgYd84fzcRzvGG4ci13ksw7MeyChRtD8-lgNUr9n1mSLg5gCV3x-CJFfypkksKr2D7wuTVVtGm-1HwR9cQ-XdteqYKTKdmY5GhfLr_6wZfVJ9vc-rl6BusYoVpE56-U2PXCZJVSuRlyfEkp1-AYKxqYYA_pk/s320/thumbnail_Barn%20Owl%20-%20Free%20photo%20on%20Pixabay%20-%20Pixabay.png" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>We're spending a lot of time at home this summer. A combination of budgets, timings and other activities going on in our lives. We are fortunate to live not far from Hampton Court and they have some events on. This year we have been to the jousting which all the kids enjoyed and we also saw a falconry display there too. It went well and we have a craft to make as well. <br />
<a name='more'></a><br />To prepare our autistic kids for the visit the first thing is my own preparation. The displays are over a few days and at set times each day. I chose a day and time of day that I thought would be least busy - a Thursday at 3pm (the last showing of the day). It also meant we could wait half an hour at the end of the display and then the jousting would start. I thought about what the seating would be like and what to take... it was going to be just sitting on the grass so I took a blanket. This means David knows where he is supposed to sit. I also took the ipad and charger as I knew there would be some down time once we arrived. <div><br /></div><div>Then I prepared the kids. Anthony likes to know a weeks schedule roughly at a time but can cope with things last minute. He's often not sure he wants to go to things but often enjoys them once he is there and over that feeling. David just needs a days notice - too far ahead and it's too. much to imagine. I also showed it to hi on our calendar so he can see it coming up when he wants to. I showed him a few images of a falconry display so he had an idea about it. If it helps, some kids will benefit from crafting the topic before hand... others as a follow-up task. </div><div><br /></div><div>The display was fun although not terribly engaging for David. The birds had to be quite close before he looked at them but it wasn't busy and we were able to sit next to the rope around the little arena. They had a barn owl, a hawk and a peregrine flacon which was very fast. Overall is was an ok event, no dramas and a fun thing to do before heading off the the jousting (that I would highly recommend). <br /><div><br /></div><div>
Many people with autism, like some of my kids, have fine or gross motor skills challenges, but it's great practice for all kids and helps with their imagination and learning. This fun craft combines going through or preparing for the falconry display and some skills too. <br />
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<b>To make this little Pine Cone Barn Owl Family you will need:</b><br />
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<li>A pine cone for each owl you want to make (we did four)</li>
<li>Cotton wool</li>
<li>Coloured paper / coloured sticky paper / paper and colours to make beak and eyes</li>
<li>Leaves or feathers for the wings</li>
<li>Glue stick or glue gun</li>
<li>Scissors and a pen</li>
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By placing the materials around the table, you'll be encouraging your kids to cross their midline when doing the activity. Gluing and sticking is also a great practice for bilateral motor skills as you need to use both hands together, eg. holding the paper and gluing, or holding the glue stick and pulling the top off or pulling the cotton wool apart. Stuffing the owls is a great fine motor skills activity and helps develop a good pincer grip for writing development too.</div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkTuHioYjeWK8lcr8W6wVIDYJZ3iPb9qGBZIFdYK3HsW85xmf1sWv2Rl8h9cGmKekjmQl6e-Bmb84WcIqKdFRayxnznlUZvXoiD78c_VZVD_OwF9DSCRUpYcWNjGfRkm47pbZMi8ar_ZU/s1600/IMG_8759.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img alt="Snowy pine cone owl family" border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjkTuHioYjeWK8lcr8W6wVIDYJZ3iPb9qGBZIFdYK3HsW85xmf1sWv2Rl8h9cGmKekjmQl6e-Bmb84WcIqKdFRayxnznlUZvXoiD78c_VZVD_OwF9DSCRUpYcWNjGfRkm47pbZMi8ar_ZU/s320/IMG_8759.jpg" width="400" /></a></div>
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<b>To Make your Pine Cone Barn Owls:</b><br />
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1) Go for a walk and collect any of the extra things you need to make your Barn owls from nature. We talked about what owls were like, what nocturnal meant and what we could collect to make them. We collected pine cones for the owls bodies and tried to find small matching leaves to make their wings.<br />
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2) We looked through all the materials we were going to use. I encouraged the children to feel the prickly pine cones and the soft soft cotton wool. We looked at the veins on the leaves and thought about how they were similar to feathers. Then begin by “tearing” the cotton wool apart to make it smaller and stuff the pieces into the pine cones.
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3) Once your owl has enough white stuffed into it, it's time to add eyes and a beak. We drew circles and triangles on orange stick note paper as it meant there was less sticking. <a href="https://amzn.to/2DaWuOH" target="_blank">Easigrip scissors</a> can be helpful in developing the motor skills action if the kids are able or interested in cutting out the beak and eyes themselves. As they are sticking to to cotton wool, it's really easy.
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4) We then selected matching leaves to be used at wings, trimmed them into wing type shapes and attached these with a glue stick.
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5) Once all the owls were made we collected them together in a barn owl family. We used some pebbles as eggs (even though it's not the right time of year :-)) and glued some of them into a shell like a nest as a table decoration - but it's also great fun just to play with them as little figurines too. <br />
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Have you been to any bird displays or done any bird crafts? The display at Hampton Court has finished but the team there were from the Hobbledown in Hounslow so if you are interested you could probably go to one there. Happy holidays. <br />
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</div></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-62968440881533503792023-06-06T09:08:00.005-07:002023-06-06T09:08:48.494-07:00How will our autistic son cope when he starts work?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNbJkq_ZYCQjBJoJmi-EZJ9IsZOYhDaUZ83r11yh4qITrOcwbxbLWy_tAfl_YZB84JvaapBG1CJM6RlS-RqczJMA38qHQn1QlRUdrZq6V-kAoBzzrx--d4DiKrAzoDjq3UXurHM3obazbR5u84xjmQACITqwqdXzoGO61Lwzx1c7gFuEg7ZcoDIntH/s354/Screen%20Shot%202023-06-06%20at%2017.07.44.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="354" data-original-width="354" height="400" alt="Job list" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNbJkq_ZYCQjBJoJmi-EZJ9IsZOYhDaUZ83r11yh4qITrOcwbxbLWy_tAfl_YZB84JvaapBG1CJM6RlS-RqczJMA38qHQn1QlRUdrZq6V-kAoBzzrx--d4DiKrAzoDjq3UXurHM3obazbR5u84xjmQACITqwqdXzoGO61Lwzx1c7gFuEg7ZcoDIntH/s320/Screen%20Shot%202023-06-06%20at%2017.07.44.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><div><br /></div>My 15 year old son did a practice job interview at school today. He took in a suit to wear and practiced questions with us last night. For Anthony, this type of thing is really important. He was diagnosed with autism at four years old, and ADHD when he was around seven. We've been looking at colleges and my mind already races forward to the day ... a day he's looking forward to actually... when he gets a job. And I wonder about him in a workplace.<span><a name='more'></a></span>
<br /><br />There's been a big increase in awareness in the last ten years, since he was diagnosed, about neurodiveristy. In addition to school, Anthony has been supported by an occupational therapist and a speech and language therapist to help him gain the skills he needs to function in the world and in the world of work. But it feel like he'll be out there all to soon. <br /><br />
I'm guessing he'll be supported through some kind of occupational health. Occupational health is an area of work in public health to promote and maintain of physical, mental and social well-being of workers. Occupational health is an essential aspect of any workplace, yet it often falls short of being inclusive and comprehensive. According to a by <a href="https://www.peoplemanagement.co.uk/article/1744835/uk-workers-do-not-have-access-occupational-health" target="_blank">People Management</a>, over half of UK workers do not have access to occupational health services, highlighting the urgent need for change. <br /><br />
Yes there are the obvious things everyone thinks of. Industries that involve obvious safety needs often have dedicated OH services, such as <a href="https://www.jobfit.com.au/" target="_blank">railway medical</a> checks for example. Even in offices we are all given forms to fill out as
soaring complaint numbers are linked to <a href="https://hubpublishing.co.uk/back-pain-britain-poor-home-working-set-up-is-damaging-health/" target="_blank">back, neck, and shoulder pain</a>. <br /><br />
This support for a healthy work force seems relatively obvious. But what about neurodiverse individuals like our son?
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Well, I know that last year there was a a new guide about evaluating and supporting neurodifferences published by The Society of Occupational Medicine (SOM). It is a product of the SOM Occupational Health Psychology Special Interest Group (SIG) and was launched during Neurodiversity Celebration Week which is how I came across it.
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The guide is aimed at occupational health (OH) practitioners, Human Resources professionals and employers, who are considering referring their staff for a diagnostic assessment of or services to support ADHD, Autism, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Tourette's Syndrome and/or similar. It outlines what to look out for in staff, different options available for support and legal duties of employers. The guide presents recommendations informed by research evidence, the latest guidance from regulatory bodies, current practice, and case law.
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Neurodiversity, such as autism or ADHD like Anthony has, is becoming a much-discussed topic on social media. Indeed, more and more adults are receiving a late diagnosis about their condition. A diagnosis can help to address many unanswered questions and create an empowering routine. Yet, the <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2018/07/the-wait-for-autism-diagnosis.html" target="_blank">wait for a diagnosis</a>, at any age, remains long. For children, this is extremely worrying for their development. For adults who have been masking and struggling with feelings of low self-esteem and not fitting in all their lives, the wait can also be difficult.
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Occupational health experts available within the workplace can not only make the wait more bearable, but also address some of the needs of adults with new workplace suggestions. Indeed, individuals can struggle with the support and understanding of their employers and colleagues. OH can advocate for early diagnosis and offer tailored accommodations. Facilitating awareness and acceptance within the workplace can be life-changing for many neurodiverse adults. <br /><br />
Our concern, of course, is that Anthony is enabled throughout his life. He has an amazing memory, he's funny, kind, devoted and wants to do the best in his activities. He has talents he doesn't recognise and we hope that he'll be apprecaited for these and supported in the parts of a work place he may find more challenging. It's all just ahead of him but it all feels so daunting and perhaps that's part of his mental struggles. Where will he work, what will he be doing, how will he get a job? All things re regularly talks to us about. Amazing really. Let's hope he's allowed to stay that way. <br /><br />
Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-91981101902919738642023-05-14T08:08:00.004-07:002023-05-14T08:09:33.439-07:00Mental health and our autistic son<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCtI14a3U6OmtmyrYZYMK4RKYVw7B3f4XaNZq4AkTZyCJ7CiEpGqpeLRLTxmhHpEsqataLTCAKCBvuXDl9kl-5soO1h3Gm8HHL4tXVfHfAP3aUU1LEL1_AiqcQh6vNdtGGG4xywhchCwkeDbEqth9jZHlnXPwtwNsw8oCF_l7wj1bbwqMtCGSqUle9/s450/Screen%20Shot%202023-05-14%20at%2016.05.42.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="School boys" border="0" data-original-height="450" data-original-width="450" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCtI14a3U6OmtmyrYZYMK4RKYVw7B3f4XaNZq4AkTZyCJ7CiEpGqpeLRLTxmhHpEsqataLTCAKCBvuXDl9kl-5soO1h3Gm8HHL4tXVfHfAP3aUU1LEL1_AiqcQh6vNdtGGG4xywhchCwkeDbEqth9jZHlnXPwtwNsw8oCF_l7wj1bbwqMtCGSqUle9/s320/Screen%20Shot%202023-05-14%20at%2016.05.42.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><span style="text-align: left;">Earlier this year our eldest son really struggled with his mental health. He was missing lessons at school, struggling to cope outside the home and crying and worrying about his future a lot. I read some recent research from Wysa that showed more than 8 in 10 teenagers are experiencing mental health worries, with 1 in 3 needing professional support. According to the research, half of young people can't access the support they need, with many feeling too ashamed or uncomfortable to talk to teachers or mental health teams at school. </span><span><a name='more'></a></span><br /><br />
New figures from leading mental health app Wysa show that the children and young people’s UK mental health crisis is worse than estimated. Over 1 in 3 13-17 year olds surveyed indicate symptoms of depression or anxiety that warrant investigation – and 82% self report a range of mental health issues such as anxiety (49% - rising to 63% of females), trouble sleeping (21%), dislike of image (26%), fear of socialising (29%) and other concerns. Half are worried about their parents’ money, showing influence of news agenda and the cost of living crisis on teenagers’ mental health.<br /><br />
But most worryingly according to the research, young people aren’t getting the help that they need. More than half (55%) who scored 3 or more on GAD2 and PHQ2 screening questionnaires for anxiety and depression haven’t spoken to a relevant professional about it.
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Stigma and lack of knowledge
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Their reason is embarrassment (43%) or that they don’t recognise they need help (41%) - stigma still prevails, and education about what is normal needs to happen. We need to normalise talking about mental health, and provide the resources and education around what to do when struggling or faced with difficulties. Although there has been extra focus and investment into supporting people to understand and identify signs of mental ill health, it’s just not landing with young people.
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And 1 in 6 (17%) don’t know who to speak to, which rises to a quarter (23%) of 13-15 year olds. Having a mental health nurse in school, or posters up about therapists only work if people are shown how to access them, and guided to getting support.
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Lack of accessibility
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Part of the reason for this is accessibility at the times that young people need help. Nearly half (49%) experience mental health worries before school and a quarter (27%) just before bed – yet most current solutions are available during school hours. A third (35%) say that the support available is not at the right times for them.<br /><br />
When faced with challenges half of young people would speak to parents (53%), and a similar number to friends (46%). But ahead of Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service (CAMHS) services (25%) and teachers (21%) is TikTok (33%). Teenagers are using their phones and social media to access mental health support, which may not be accurate or regulated.<div><br /></div><div><b>Our experience </b> <br /><br />We've certainly found some of this research to be true for our son. Anthony was already registered with CAMHS and under the supervision of clinical psychologist when his mental health took a turn for the worse. The journey to and from school, changing lessons and again at bedtime were his worse parts of the day. He spoke to us about it and after looking into the some mental health apps he said he'd prefer to speak to a person just like Sam did on 'Atypcial' a show he liked watching at the time. He found it very relatable. <div><br /></div><div>We were fortunate enough to be able to get in touch with a local charity called <a href="https://www.skylarks.charity/" target="_blank">Skylarks</a> who worked with Off the Record, a local therapy service and were able to arrange within about 6 weeks for Anthony to attend speaking therapy sessions. We also did other things like getting noise cancelling headphones and clothing that made Anthony feel safe outside the house. </div><div><br /></div><div>We attended a routine appointment with CAMHS where Anthony spoke of his difficulties and we said about what we had managed to organise. His clinical psychologist was relieved when we said we'd managed to arrange some talking therapy because, "you would be waiting a long time" before it could be accessed through the NHS. This was disturbing as Anthony was already registered with CAMHS and shows how difficult this could be for someone who had not.</div><div><br /></div><div>Anthony told us he looked for answers on TikTok. Some of it was helpful and some not. The information he was getting was definitely unregulated and we were lucky enough that he talked to us about what he was seeing. I still find it troubling, some of what was being suggested online. </div><div><br /></div><div>Anthony is doing better at the moment. He stopped his talking therapy a little while ago and is back out doing things he enjoys. But we still ask him every day how his day has gone and how he is feeling. I'm not sure how this post should end, perhaps as it's ongoing. I'm just happy he is happy at the moment and grateful that he's not struggled to access help in the way many others have. </div></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-74641573745441069432023-04-25T02:00:00.000-07:002023-05-03T08:27:32.917-07:00Trying to tell if my pre-verbal autistic son is in pain?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMJGr8kH9a0GzBT4YErIg1s36bGCEzmjd8ziPtFdivX85IrIUX8gqv3sj_1QnDRSpClUiY6oz2fwxSmj9znEzMWNugL73uLUnVDJ7x3a5A9vl2LYj4QTHf2Yd3vxJ96D-X-bFdGfdLDgGpmrHth2L7MDX5w35ZHoAMZiotIvWlpjZWwIcLBKUgPLqc/s599/Screen%20Shot%202018-01-28%20at%2016.43.15.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="599" data-original-width="598" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMJGr8kH9a0GzBT4YErIg1s36bGCEzmjd8ziPtFdivX85IrIUX8gqv3sj_1QnDRSpClUiY6oz2fwxSmj9znEzMWNugL73uLUnVDJ7x3a5A9vl2LYj4QTHf2Yd3vxJ96D-X-bFdGfdLDgGpmrHth2L7MDX5w35ZHoAMZiotIvWlpjZWwIcLBKUgPLqc/s320/Screen%20Shot%202018-01-28%20at%2016.43.15.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><p>David is not like most other twelve year old boys. He's not got a favourite football team, he doesn't eat pizza and he's never played a game of Fortnite. But that's not surprising. David is autistic and part of this means he's also never tied his own shoes, independently brushed his own teeth or used spoken words to tell us anything other than his basic wants. One of my greatest concerns is that David will need to tell me something and he can't.</p><p>And one of the things I worry about him not being able to tell me... is if he is in pain. <span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p>I've read some many news items on research that shows people with autism or ADHD are more likely to die early. Or maybe more specifically earlier than their peers. From my own experience as a parent to autistic and ADHD I'd likely think this is to do with a couple of things.... so this is not based on anything scientific. </p><p>But I'm guessing my kids understand less about danger and can be impulsive and so there is a greater risk of injury or accident. David has a very restricted diet like many people with autism and this means he's not getting all the vitamins he could be or the nutrition. It's no doubt one of the reasons why he is so small for his age and doesn't seem to have a lot of muscle. But this probably means he's just not as strong or healthy as others his own age either. </p><p>But more often I'd think it would be to do with not understanding something was medically wrong or even if they do.. not being able to figure out how access or how to get help. Like in my last post, I can tell they have a cold or maybe hayfever if they have a snotty nose and can try and help them. But pain is not always that obvious.</p>
Pain is our body’s way of letting us know something is up. Sometimes, it can a lot more serious than others. On most occasions, we will find that it’s just a small ailment that needs our attention. But ultimately, our body is trying to signal to us that something is wrong in a set area and that it wants us to address it. So if your body isn’t feeling right, it tries to tell you.<div><br /></div><div>But I don't know if David can understand what his body is trying to tell him. And I don't know that even if he understands it, if he is able to tell me. </div><div><br /></div><div>Is David falls over, bangs his knee or gets soap in his eyes it's often relatively easy to figure out. We've taught David to say 'ouch' when something happens and he echos this back to us usually. He is also pretty good at labelling parts of his body and we can ask 'where ouch'. But when even a person who is able to communicate effectively is in pain their ability to do just that is diminished. </div><div><br /></div><div>We will often have to guess where is hurting and try to deal with it. It’s one of those things to really use your judgment about.</div><div><br /></div><div>We can look for physical signs of injury such as red marks, grazes or maybe even a carpet burn if he has slipped. Is David trying to get to a part of his body? Some children even hit at an area of pain to try and bash it out or rub it away. </div><div><br /></div><div>David will often try to 'inspect' an area but I don't know if this is learnt as it's the first thing I do when he comes to me and he is hurt. I think it might be his way of seeing if it is different... he doesn't like different. But this can indicate he is unhappy with the way he is feeling.</div><div><br /></div><div>When David feels sick he tries to put his hands in his mouth. At first i found this really concerning as it looked a little bit like how you would make yourself sick and I was worried where he had learnt it. But I think I've figured that he feels likes he is going to vomit and doesn't like the feeling in his throat.</div><div><br /></div><div>There are times when I think he might have a headache but I honestly don't know why. I think it's that he seems more sensitive or more grumpy than usual.. like I am when I have a headache. </div><div><br /></div><div>If David goes to the loo often or spends too long in there again this can indicate he's having pain in his abdomen. I can check how his trips to the toilet go and I can feel his tummy to check if he tries to pull my hand away indicating that pressing it may hurt. </div><div><br /></div><div>It's worth mentioning that David can also be <a href="https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/if-youre-having-difficult-time/signs-you-may-be-struggling-cope/" target="_blank">struggling with something mentally</a> and this can also cause his tummy to feel unsettled. If he has had a <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/06/autism-parenting-heart-ache-of-one-shoe.html" target="_blank">meltdown</a> or is very stressed he can feel this in his stomach and will ask me to rub his tummy. </div><div><br /></div><div>These are the things I look out for, but I honestly still feel like I could easily be missing something... and it could be major. It's the whole idea that what if he's always been in pain and thinks that's how he should feel. How would he know any different? </div><div><br />Helping David with pain is possibly even more challenging. There are some things we can do to help him but there are few times that we are asking ourselves <a href="https://www.nurofen.com.au/pain-advice/about-nurofen/what-is-paracetamol/" target="_blank">is paracetamol a painkiller</a> because it's so hard to give medication to him unless it's really necessary. </div><div><br /></div><div>When he was about five <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/01/i-dont-know-how-you-do-it.html" target="_blank">he went into surgery to have teeth removed</a>. He must have been in pain before the operation as he had several cavities and afterwards the bottom half of his face looked like he'd been a boxing ring with Rocky Balboa. <br /><br />It was awful. He hurt and cried but didn't know why he'd been made to feel like this. But he actually got over it very quickly like he does most things. I can only hope that as he grows I can help him and spot when he's not acting like himself and advocate for him when he needs it. He already struggles in the world, I don't want him suffering in silence too. </div><div><br /></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-55647145444899412242023-04-11T10:44:00.000-07:002023-04-14T01:58:58.176-07:00Helping my autistic kids feel a bit better when they are under the weather<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPk_ScNfqcnpvJI7MzA62QfUnywM8rcmc1qUaUuR0lombioDSFvwE1iPtnql3Nd913wpF8xxrPIGvCFrz0eoQ2wSGvbQxN6Ojvm5WNBL5cH0noddm7nMveP42nbJ8NC0Elg4sZPO_GZxnTZrmJ8up9VjG1mP7saaVXHLU2cR-2OTC1GL-_c4afBRDc/s453/Screen%20Shot%202023-04-13%20at%2018.41.43.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Boy with temperature" border="0" data-original-height="453" data-original-width="453" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjPk_ScNfqcnpvJI7MzA62QfUnywM8rcmc1qUaUuR0lombioDSFvwE1iPtnql3Nd913wpF8xxrPIGvCFrz0eoQ2wSGvbQxN6Ojvm5WNBL5cH0noddm7nMveP42nbJ8NC0Elg4sZPO_GZxnTZrmJ8up9VjG1mP7saaVXHLU2cR-2OTC1GL-_c4afBRDc/s320/Screen%20Shot%202023-04-13%20at%2018.41.43.png" width="400" /></a></div><br /><div><br /></div>Nobody likes feeling sick. Even minor ailments can get in the way of you going about your day. Add in not understanding why you are feeling unwell or how to make yourself better and it gets even more complicated.<span><a name='more'></a></span><br /> One of my kids not only doesn't understand what being ill or having a cold is or why it happens, he struggles so much with communication that he can't even tell us about it. We just have to guess that he's even more fussy than normal, or he is struggling even more with transitions today and looks really tired... maybe he's a bit ill? So how can we help him quickly? Here's a few things we try.
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Hydrate And humidify</b><br /><br />
Staying hydrated is always important, but it’s especially so when they're feeling sick. They’ll need water to fuel their body’s response to the illness, making it vital they get enough of it. Make sure they’re as hydrated as possible to start feeling better relatively quickly.
It could also be worth turning on a humidifier when you’re at home, especially if the air in your house is dry. Dry air can be more difficult to breathe in than moist air, making them feel even worse <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/09/4-days-being-sick-is-this-what-its-like.html" target="_blank">when they’re sick</a>. Just make sure it's something they are used too... our autistic son is particularly sensitive to noise so if it's noisy or not a sound they are used to then it might be counter productive. <br /><br /><b>
Take medication when it helps</b><br /><br />
They’ll have various symptoms when they’re sick, and sometimes easing these makes them feel better. From cough medicine to the <a href="https://www.gaviscon.com.au/how-gaviscon-works/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">best antacid tablets</span></a>, there are more than a few of these you could consider. And you can't necessarily <a href="https://nida.nih.gov/publications/research-reports/misuse-prescription-drugs/it-safe-to-use-prescription-drugs-in-combination-other-medications#:~:text=Specifically%2C%20drugs%20that%20slow%20down,of%20life%2Dthreatening%20respiratory%20depression." target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">take all of these together</span></a>. However taking medications can be particularly difficult for our kids. <div><br /></div><div>Medications are different unusual, not something they usually eat or drink and this can make it very challenging.
We focus on the worse symptoms they’re experiencing and find things that are easy to administer. Some Vapo rub might help with a stuffy nose but not a headache, but there's almost no chance of David taking Calpol without a massive meltdown so unless there's a major problem we help with what works. <br /><br /><b>
Rest</b><br /><br />
Their body needs to put effort into tackling whatever illness they’re experiencing. Even something as minor as a cold or flu takes up a decent amount of energy. That’s why they could feel so tired when they’re feeling sick. The best way of overcoming this is <a href="https://www.verywellhealth.com/when-is-it-time-to-call-in-sick-guidelines-2614975" target="_blank">staying home and resting</a>. </div><div><br /></div><div>The more sleep they get, the more their body can focus on overcoming whatever they’re experiencing. Even if they’re not able to get some extra sleep, it’s more than worth taking the time to rest for a while. Back to back episodes of their latest obsession or favourite movies are ok as long as it doesn't wind them up.
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As with everything with our autistic kids it's about picking how best to help them with what they are going through at the moment and picking the things that work best fot them. Personally, I'm hoping the better weather will bring about less colds and fingers crossed, minimal allergies!
</div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-5064049204645379082023-03-23T11:23:00.004-07:002023-03-23T11:28:02.961-07:00Ways to teach our autistic kids about the natural world<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHoLF1fZ8qQq78XJnMOK24lBLngbrtybatP_40CGLAZc5r6e1levSpb79CViKVHs4uWixxF3kIsdiqcElKFyw1kTkN4C4cVLJwi7IelO4t5tUwnGIdM4pdCjGvXIkzwMlobdNnoGOvzINhb_H44cRwrYyrA_iKKc1FlXzlNPycrQPT3eT2p7aGfRY-/s640/IMG_6358.PNG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Lion" border="0" data-original-height="640" data-original-width="640" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHoLF1fZ8qQq78XJnMOK24lBLngbrtybatP_40CGLAZc5r6e1levSpb79CViKVHs4uWixxF3kIsdiqcElKFyw1kTkN4C4cVLJwi7IelO4t5tUwnGIdM4pdCjGvXIkzwMlobdNnoGOvzINhb_H44cRwrYyrA_iKKc1FlXzlNPycrQPT3eT2p7aGfRY-/s320/IMG_6358.PNG" width="400" /></a></div><div><br /></div>Teaching anything to my autistic kids can be a challenge. Even when it's an area that they are interested in it can be challenging to support them to learn when they have such significant difficulties with communication. David is in Yr 7 according to his age but in many ways he's operating like a child who is in Yr1. He speaks in only a few words and needs to be shown most things to learnt them as he only understands some of what is said. <span><a name='more'></a></span><div><br /></div><div>He can copy a complex series of actions, but following instructions or understanding language is a whole other ball game. So how do we help him learn. Let's take the example of learning about the natural world. <br /><p></p> <div><b>What different animals are there and what are they like? </b></div><div><br /></div><div>Labelling is where a child learns the names of items... or in this case animals. It's common for children with autism to be difficulty generalising and labelling things correctly. For example, if I showed David a picture of a brown bear, he may chose to decide in his head that all bears were brown (being too specific) or that all brown animals were bears (not specific enough). To help with this we can show and label different bears from different places to help him identify different animals correctly, photos, pictures, TV or even we've had <a href="https://amzn.to/3K04Dr0" target="_blank">augmented reality animal flashcards</a> that works with his iPad.</div><div><br />
We can help by showing what makes the animals unique in some cases. For example, polar bears have thick fur to help them endure the cold temperatures in the Arctic. Kangaroos have powerful hind legs, which allow them to jump great distances, whereas cheetahs have sharp claws that they use to capture their prey. Watching animals on shows and programmes can help show their natural variation or even a <a href="https://www.generationgenius.com/videolessons/natural-selection-video-for-kids/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">natural selection video lesson for kids</span></a> might work for some.</div><div><br /><b>
Where do different animals live?
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A matching game is a great way of working through the different habitats around our world. Videos, images and diagrams can all help our kids match words with animals, and animals with places. <br /><br />
We can look at the habitats that animals can be found in, such as the rainforest, the desert, and the <a href="https://www.britannica.com/science/tundra" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">tundra</span></a>, and how animals are able to adapt their lifestyles to survive in these different types of environments. For instance, desert snakes have a special adaptation that allows them to go for extended periods of time without drinking water, they <a href="https://www.nationalgeographic.com/animals/article/thirsty-animals-stay-hydrated-using-these-ingenious-techniques" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">absorb moisture from the prey</span></a> they consume and store it in their bodies.
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Visit the Animals</b><br /><br />Many people with autism need to experience things themselves to really understand them. For example it's not always easy to understand size when looking at photos or on a screen but it's very evident when actually seeing a giraffe that they are in fact very tall. David absolutely loved feeding giraffes when we visited Columbus Zoo last summer. <br /><br />
When the children are looking at a giraffe, for instance, you could explain to them how the animal’s long neck enables it to reach high branches that other animals are unable to reach. You could also talk about how the <a href="https://animals.howstuffworks.com/mammals/question454.htm" target="_blank">zebra’s stripes help it blend in</a> with its environment, making it more difficult for potential enemies to spot it. We can talk about it like a game of hide and seek.<br /><br />
You can also try to encourage the children to ask questions about the animals and the behaviours that they exhibit. Whether it's as simple as the elephant is having a shower or the lion is eating his food.</div><div><br /></div><div>Animals can often hold the attention of children with autism. They can unpredictable or loud and this can sometimes make them seem scary but learning about them will help reduce this. Many people with autism and other social challenges have connections with animals. Whether the animals are real or even stuffed animal toys they can bring a sense of peace and calmness to a child or even adult on the spectrum. </div><div><br /></div><div>This is for several different reasons, and the reasons make sense. Think about all of the people who don’t have autism who have a love for animals! Learning about it can help them further develop this and enjoy the natural world around them. </div><div><br /><br /></div></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-27276578438177566072023-03-15T07:55:00.004-07:002023-03-15T08:55:08.105-07:00Will increased free childcare, in the budget, discriminate against autistic, SEN kids like mine?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br /></div>The government has announced an extension to free childcare but a quick calculation shows me that if my son, David, was in childcare now... he would only get ... three... just three hours childcare a week, a tenth of that of his fellow peers. And all because he has autism. If free childcare is going to be offered it needs to be offered without discrimination. <br />
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Anthony and David were both officially diagnosed with autism when they were three. When it became obvious that Anthony needed more support to go to nursery and pre-school, the nursery applied to our council for some special educational needs early years funding. This could pay for an extra member of staff to help him. At the time you could apply for 15 hours worth of funding - which make sense as at the time you could claim 15 hours of free childcare. So, if a child needs constant 1:1 support, then they would need it for 15 hours. <br />
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But in the three years between Anthony accessing his 15 hours of free childcare and it being David's turn, local budgets had been cut for special educational needs in early years and the number of children needing this support had increased significantly. The council simply didn't have enough money to offer 15 hours of extra support to kids with special needs so they could get help during their 15 hours in pre-school. <br />
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Despite David's difficulties being far greater than his brother's he could only get the maximum then available - seven hours. This is because the pot of money to support children like him had not got bigger, but the number of kids who needed it had increased. <div><br /></div><div>The result was that David only got seven free hours of childcare a week, less than his more able peers. And even then, there was no funding for extra training, so the staff didn't always know how to help him.</div><div><br /></div><div>David was three years old but he didn't speak a single word and he couldn't communicate at all. Sometimes he lashed out and sometimes <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2017/02/another-mum-standing-up-for-SEN.html" target="_hplink">other kids got the sharp end of his frustration</a>.<br />
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He needed support to interact with anyone. He had sensory needs. He needed help to sit when he should, eat when he should and let's not talk about how late his toilet training was. The nursery simply couldn't take David without a dedicated assistant to care for him.</div><div><br /><div>
It seemed backwards. The child who needed the most opportunity to '<a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/11/progress-and-prosperity.html" target="_hplink">catch-up</a>' and be independent, the child who needed the greatest help in socialising, was getting the least time to do both. In fact it is well documented and professionals all agree the importance of early intervention for kids like our boys.</div><div><br /></div><div>In the end we were fortunate. Nearby there was a nursery with a specialist facility that David could do to for his pre-school year. But the truth is we were very fortunate to find have this - many don't.</div><div><br /></div><div>What if David was going to use childcare now? I've had a quick look at some local budgets for early years additional needs funding, looked at the number of kids 9 months - 4 years old, the average number who need more support, and average pay rate for a member of staff and found that in some cases kids with special educational needs in early years child care could potentially only be funded, and so offered three hours a week! <br />
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So while I am pleased that some parents may be accessing further childcare to help them stay in work and their children access education, I fear that families like ours, and children like David may not get the support they deserve. </div><div><br /></div><div>Put simply, if free childcare is going to be offered it needs to be offered without discrimination and I'm not sure it's all be thought through for kids like ours. </div></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-12872877503772279642023-03-13T10:40:00.004-07:002023-03-13T10:42:08.228-07:00What is alternative provision?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilXi9BdDUB74hvIc1eq4k9bfmBkpeKsc_bHnr1b7qIq4xCkLckXQYh9Ttnz3QJvhLNNfFmTahs8X7KhVQ_OVfzQywwBloLjH2zIDR_Re_b7s0VuR38FwP_rwiYSdyliVbQMHwTkY1Xz-oGHk2VLlEYiTeoIaLWOEfDBgyd4yu6UE4QKl-8zkthfJUH/s3456/IMG_3966.JPG" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Boy in woods" border="0" data-original-height="3450" data-original-width="3456" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilXi9BdDUB74hvIc1eq4k9bfmBkpeKsc_bHnr1b7qIq4xCkLckXQYh9Ttnz3QJvhLNNfFmTahs8X7KhVQ_OVfzQywwBloLjH2zIDR_Re_b7s0VuR38FwP_rwiYSdyliVbQMHwTkY1Xz-oGHk2VLlEYiTeoIaLWOEfDBgyd4yu6UE4QKl-8zkthfJUH/s320/IMG_3966.JPG" width="400" /></a></div><p>I have been working in various types of education for nearly 15 years. I have three children (if you can call my teenager a child) in education - two of these with special educational needs attending specialist provisions. One of whom started in what's called mainstream (a regular government funded school) and has ended up in a special school as mainstream became unsuitable for him. <span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p>I've been working in primary and secondary schools for the last five years and worked with many kids who struggle in school either due to special educational needs or other things going on in their lives. When I worked in primary many of the pupils who truly needed more support than mainstream could provide would be supported in finding a different type of school for secondary entry. </p><p>This can be extremely challenging as there are limited numbers of specialist school places, due to a shortage of <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/search?q=special+schools" target="_blank">special schools</a>. This is something that has been <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2017/12/huge-rise-in-send-appeals-is-not.html" target="_blank">reported many times</a> included on my this blog. But these schools are not what is referred to as alternative provision (AP).</p><p><b>When is alternative provision appropriate?</b></p><p>What had not occurred to me then is what happens when the difficulties and challenges arise in secondary? What happens when all the spaces at specialist secondary schools have been filled at entry in Yr 7 but a child is identified as needing a different placement in Yr 8 or 9, 10 or 11? Or what if waiting until secondary wasn't possible... or what if a special school wasn't actually what was needed?</p><div>When a child or young person is unable to access mainstream school for reasons including school exclusion, behavioural issues, or illness, education outside of school will be arranged. This education is called alternative provision. </div><div><div><br /></div></div><div><b>Can this include children with SEND? </b></div><div><br /></div><div>The head of a school can exclude any pupil, even if they have SEN or a disability. However, if disruptive behaviour is related to a child’s SEN or disability, the school should first take action to identify and address the underlying cause of the behaviour. The school must be able to show that the exclusion is a “proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim”. This might be, for example, if a pupil’s behaviour is having an impact on the education or safety of others. </div><div><br /></div><div><b>What does AP look like?</b></div><div><br /></div>The most common type of alternative provision is a pupil referral unit (PRU). This is a school that caters for children who aren’t able to attend a mainstream school. They are much smaller than mainstream schools, with very small class numbers and lots of pastoral support. Around a third of pupils in alternative provision attend PRUs. Most of the pupils there are secondary school age and most of them are boys. <br /><br />
The plan is that the alternative provision focusses on the child's needs and interests in a way that nurtures them, building their trust and confidence. This is why it could also be therapeutic farms or forest schools, sports facilities, hospital schools, animal-assisted therapeutic centres or vocational and practical courses like car mechanics or hairdressing. <div><div><br />While some children benefit from staying in alternative provision until they finish compulsory education, many will return to mainstream school, be it after weeks, months or even years.</div></div><div><br /></div><div><b>Where can I find out more about AP?</b></div><div><br /></div><div>If you are interested in finding out about local AP then start with your local authority (LA). This is an example of an <a href="https://kr.afcinfo.org.uk/pages/local-offer/information-and-advice/education/education-of-children-and-young-people-in-specific-circumstances/education-of-children-and-young-people-with-medical-needs/alternative-provision-policy" target="_blank">LA AP policy</a>. Like all LA policies it will give a clue as to the overall options and attitude of your LA to alternative provision. Like all things education, it falls within your LA to provide a suitable education for your child and the availability and options is very much dependant on where you live. </div><div><br /></div><div>Every child has a right to a suitable full-time education. AP is not something we have had to look at ourselves. If this is something you are now looking at there are some great resources I found below. If you have personal experience you'd like to share, you can always <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/p/questions-contact-me.html" target="_blank">contact me</a>. </div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://www.specialneedsjungle.com/whats-pru-busting-myths-alternative-provision/" target="_blank">Special Needs Jungle : What's a PRU to you?</a></div><div><a href="https://contact.org.uk/help-for-families/information-advice-services/education-learning/exclusion/" target="_blank">Contact - Exclusions and SEN pupils</a></div><div><a href="https://www.twinkl.co.uk/blog/what-is-alternative-provision" target="_blank">Twinkl</a></div><div><a href="https://www.theschoolrun.com/search/results?keys=alternative+provision" target="_blank">The School Run</a></div><div><a href="https://schoolleaders.thekeysupport.com/curriculum-and-learning/raising-attainment/approaches-to-raising-achievement/commissioning-alternative-provision/" target="_blank">School Leaders</a></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-70131394577750505472023-02-24T10:08:00.000-08:002023-03-10T05:35:34.744-08:00Helping our autistic son sleep when he is feeling stressed<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div><br /></div>Stress is a normal part of life, but when it becomes chronic, it can impact our physical and mental health. It can impact our whole life and we've been struggling recently with it impacting sleep. <span><a name='more'></a></span><div><br /></div><div>Sleep is essential for good health, and lack of sleep can increase stress levels. Make sure to get at least seven hours of sleep each night, and try to stick to a consistent sleep schedule.We've got some ideas on what can help our bodies feel ready even when our mind is not. <br /><br /><b>
Exercise regular</b><br /><br />
Exercise is an excellent way to reduce stress levels and improve your overall health. Regular exercise releases endorphins, which are chemicals in the brain that produce a feeling of happiness and well-being. Exercise can also help you sleep better, which is important because a lack of sleep can increase stress levels which is also one of the <a href="https://www.alignerco.ca/cause-teeth-grinding/" target="_blank">teeth grinding causes</a>. <div><br /></div><div>Regular exercisers sleep better and feel less sleepy during the day. It increases the amount of time you spend in the deep, restorative stages of sleep.
The more vigorously you exercise, the more powerful the sleep benefits. But even light exercise—such as walking for just 10 minutes a day—improves sleep quality. It can take several months of regular activity before you experience the full sleep-promoting effects but is worth doing. Our son walks more than ever before and hopefully that will help. <br /><div><br /></div><div><b>Eat a healthy diet</b><br /><br />
Eating a well-balanced diet that includes plenty of fruits and vegetables can help reduce stress levels. Avoid processed foods, caffeine, <a href="https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/eat-well/food-types/how-does-sugar-in-our-diet-affect-our-health/#:~:text=Eating%20too%20much%20sugar%20can%20contribute%20to%20people%20having%20too,cancers%20and%20type%202%20diabetes." target="_blank">and sugar</a>, which can all increase stress levels. Make sure to drink plenty of water, as well, to stay hydrated and reduce stress. </div><div><br /></div><div>Not eating too late in the evening can also help with going to sleep. Feeling bloated or too full can make it difficult to rest and drift off. </div><div><br /></div><div><b>Getting ready for bed </b></div><div><br />This can include activities like taking a warm bath, reading a book, or practising yoga. A bedtime routine has been a staple in our household for years. Many people with autism find it easier to get to sleep when they do the same things each night and their room is set up for sleeping. This means low lighting and quiet time before turning out the light. </div></div></div><div><br /></div><div><b>Medication or herbal remedies</b></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div>We've used lavender as a scent to help the kids relax at various times and this is something our son has used a bit recently. We've also dropped calming drops of similar types.</div><div><br /></div><div>If sleeping is a real problem then seeing a GP can help. Our son has been using melatonin and it's been a game changer for actually going to sleep. However, he can still be stressed or anxious while waiting for himself to drift off so using a variety of methods is probably going to be the way forward for us. </div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-66692807167365883972023-02-08T23:20:00.000-08:002023-02-08T23:20:07.499-08:00The joy I get from fictional autistic characters<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJxOMVwlYoM1U4Q5SGY4uKko2AGmLKrZYnEIPrpfkd7IWP0TOfRtDhfS5lHmQ95l-QXTbCTQKvwJeX1iolFFx3NDqls-d6A6eXlJDB_dKkD9uZwfUAqIp3BlrKbLRc-h8JNFfc3ebf2KqV5VPVvhBwX-F6a5mreSpWJZTO9boZ557TWJkyyjLYfjA8/s338/TheSoundOfViolet_Gallery_2_1920x1080-600x338.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="The Sound of Violet Movie Image Credit:'Morning Star Pictures'" border="0" data-original-height="338" data-original-width="338" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJxOMVwlYoM1U4Q5SGY4uKko2AGmLKrZYnEIPrpfkd7IWP0TOfRtDhfS5lHmQ95l-QXTbCTQKvwJeX1iolFFx3NDqls-d6A6eXlJDB_dKkD9uZwfUAqIp3BlrKbLRc-h8JNFfc3ebf2KqV5VPVvhBwX-F6a5mreSpWJZTO9boZ557TWJkyyjLYfjA8/s320/TheSoundOfViolet_Gallery_2_1920x1080-600x338.jpeg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><p>Whereas some people wonder if Sherlock Holmes had Asperger's Syndrome, it's difficult to tell if this fictional character was designed on the autistic spectrum. However, there are some absolutely brilliant novels which are, in my opinion, better for their autistic adult characters. </p><p><span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p>I've read lots with autistic children but I wonder about adulthood too. I know few autistic adults and in some ways, though glamourised by text, books give me insight. </p><p>I was recently sent a copy of <a href="https://www.thesoundofviolet.com/the-sound-of-violet-novel" target="_blank">The Sound of Violet by Allen Wolf</a> and was once again sucked into a story where I smile at the traits and sigh when I see a challenge ahead. Additionally the novel is set in New York City and as we visited it (autistic kids and all) in the summer, I was able to picture all the scenes along the Highline, where the main character Shawn meets date after date from an app he's part of. His brutal honesty and challenges with physical contact cut most dates short.. in fact it's quite a few chapters before he manages a second date. And unbeknownst to Shawn, it's a date with a prostitute named Violet. </p><p>In some ways the book reminds me of <a href="http://amzn.to/2lu7UBb" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">The Rosie Project</span></a><b> </b>by Graeme Simsion<b>. </b>This hilarious feel-good book is based around it's main character Don Tillman, a genetics professor whose difficulty with social interactions has convinced him that he is simply not wired for romance. Until he embarks on a new project to find him the ideal partner. And then of course there is Rosie, an unsuitable prospect who needs his help. However, unlike Don in the Rosie Project, Shawn in The Sound of Violet has little idea of the unsuitability of his would-be girlfriend.</p><p>He is also in some ways like Sam, from the Netflix series Atypical. As a 17 year old college student on the spectrum, Sam thinks he is in love with his therapist and gets himself a 'practice girlfriend' with the hope of 'one day seeing boobs'. Sam and Shawn share similar challenges when it comes to flirting, both needing to dial down smiles and consider how much eye contact is the right amount. </p><p>This is really obvious in the classic rom-com <a href="https://www.thesoundofviolet.com/" target="_blank">motion picture of The Sound of Violet </a> which picks up on many of the themes in the book well. There have been a few <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2017/03/that-will-make-them-even-more-like-me.html" target="_blank">movies with autistic characters</a> but this is one of the first I've seen where it's the main character and a main focus of the plot. </p><p>One of the things that possibly struck me most about the book and movie though was how this relatively quirky and humorous story was able to highlight the serious issues around human trafficking. Violet was manipulated and forced into her situation. Shawn's absolute resolve in helping someone most people deemed unsuitable really touched me. </p><p>Many neurotypical people have the misconception that people with autism are incapabale of empathy, are unsympathetic and even I've heard the idea that they don't have any emotions at all. Like a Vulcan I guess? Though I'd like to point out that as a Trekky, Vulcan's do have emotions, they choose to suppress them with a preference for logic. </p><p>But like Shawn in this story, I've found the opposite. Often, my sons don't understand why someone is feeling the way they are but they can be absolutely hell bent on helping you feel better. I've had my son cry because he'd not want to upset me with something. I've had a son not say about bullies because 'I don't want them to feel bad if they get into trouble and the teachers call home'.</p><p>Shawn and Violet's story is informative, inspiring and intimate in a way I didn't expect. I often struggle to get to the end of books, simply running out of energy or time and unable to pick them back up again. But it's often the personal connections we get that makes us continue reading. And this was certainly full of that. </p>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-51490896229763996092023-01-26T06:21:00.007-08:002023-01-26T06:28:45.650-08:00The clothing of an autistic teenager<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhP-ozZgp_QIiPnTTBY8ca9wiWaUtMqadbzoTv3iciVQc5pLGgQT4Qk2uAIDf2sETTL3_ZCgOeOAkjgWjwmZcD0dgLhKIf2ioC0MCRuuDbuc7vsfnDLqkPl4FtoyzvElSo26f6pmqgMlM9LDUaEVGNqRirLqDvv37wgnPNEnJNd_7xTQuNOFUlLdJQU/s425/nature-g79e258a38_640.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Teenager wearing hoodie" border="0" data-original-height="425" data-original-width="425" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhP-ozZgp_QIiPnTTBY8ca9wiWaUtMqadbzoTv3iciVQc5pLGgQT4Qk2uAIDf2sETTL3_ZCgOeOAkjgWjwmZcD0dgLhKIf2ioC0MCRuuDbuc7vsfnDLqkPl4FtoyzvElSo26f6pmqgMlM9LDUaEVGNqRirLqDvv37wgnPNEnJNd_7xTQuNOFUlLdJQU/s320/nature-g79e258a38_640.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><p>Anthony is rapidly heading towards his 15th birthday. He is well and truly into his teenage years and it shows. He is changing all the time - he's now way taller than me, struggles with his new array of emotions and constantly wants to assert his independence (when before everything was help me). But even as a relatively well functioning autistic teen, change is challenging. And to top it all off the wardrobe of a teen changes too. <span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p><b>Clothes as protection</b></p><p>Anthony literally uses his clothing as a way of making himself feel safe in the world. Hoodie's are fashionable yes, but to Anthony it's also a way of physically separating himself from the things around him that feel scary. Hood up, he looks like a bit of monochrome South Park Kenny lookalike. With his hands in his pocket he can feel enclosed. Sometimes this helps and sometimes it's difficult. He's not sure what he will do when it comes to the summer and he needs to wear less though. </p><p>At least he's comfortable with deodorant by using a great roll on deodorant designed for kids with sensitive skin called <a href="https://amzn.to/3Cp3aDN" target="_blank">Pit Stop</a>. </p><div>Anthony also likes to cover his face. There are lots of <a href="https://amzn.to/2DmUi9n" target="_blank">face masks for kids</a> that are a bit smaller and fit better but he's in between sizes a bit so the adjustable ones work best at the moment. They are made form different materials so you can find what might be more comfortable for you family and their sensory needs. </div><div><br /></div><div>We have some cotton ones that can be washed and this is good because it means that he can wear the same ones each time and they end up smelling like our normal laundry detergent instead of something else. </div><div><br /></div><div>You could also look at using something you already have as a face covering and this would be more familiar for your family too. We have several <a href="https://amzn.to/33DaGNl" target="_blank">buffs which are multifunctional headwear</a> that we use in the autumn and winter and these are thin, washable and easy to use as a face covering over you nose, mouth and chin. </div><p><b>Clothing for comfort</b></p><p>Anthony used to say the tags in his clothes felt like he was being stabbed by spikes and that when his clothes were crunched up around his waist it felt like he was wearing tin foil. Coats often have hanging tags on them and we'll avoid these or cut them out - they all hang up via their hoods in our home. Seamless clothing can make a huge difference to our kids. Both Jane and Anthony have used some seamless items.</p><div>Jane in particular has <a href="https://www.sockshop.co.uk/shop/kids/material/bamboo" target="_blank">bamboo socks and tights</a> with <a href="https://www.sockshop.co.uk/shop/kids/feature/smooth-toe-seams" target="_blank">smooth toe seams</a> and comfort cuffs and waist bands. She always really struggled with the tight feeling she got around her calves when she wore knee high school socks. Her <a href="https://www.sockshop.co.uk/products/girls-1-pair-sockshop-plain-bamboo-tights?colour=Grey" target="_blank">tights have flatlocked seams</a> on the inside and the waist band is a big elasticated honeycomb. They look like regular smooth tights but are also smooth against her skin and soft against her waist. Her scrunchy skirt waist band can then sit on top and not be so uncomfortable. </div><div><br /></div><div>A vest can also help Anthony avoid the scrunchy feeling of his trousers too. This can also be helpful if they feel the cold with some particular <a href="https://amzn.to/2NyxiF7" target="_blank">vests offering extra warmth</a>. </div><div><br /></div><div><b>Clothes that help them adapt to teenage bodies</b></div><div><br /></div><div>I've been an advocate of period pants for ages. Girls may find these an easier way of dealing with periods that the challenges of constantly carrying and changing sanitary products. WUKA even do a book to help learn about this change to their bodies. There are also seamless crop tops or get bralettes <a href="https://www.thirdlove.com/collections/bralettes" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">here</span></a> which are more comfortable and can help with the transition to bra's if or when it is needed. </div><div><br /></div><div>Many kids will find they are no longer in the 'kids' sizes and so are expected to wear adult clothing which misses out many the 'easy-on' features. However, Nike do a range of slip in and zip round trainers and skechers also do a rage of slip on trainers which means if laces are a problem there is a way around this. The top button of shirts can be held in place with a <a href="https://amzn.to/2QqGCLe" target="_blank">velcro coin dot</a> as this one is particularly difficult to do up too.</div><div><br /></div><div>Growing up is challenging and anything I can do to help is worth it. So if you've any tips of helping with clothing ideas for teenagers, autistic or neurotypical, I'd love to hear from you. </div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-44766789102769322042023-01-20T01:58:00.005-08:002023-01-20T01:58:57.960-08:00Ideas for helping our anxious son<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglzlRBNfpIITF7wlmVYLLJKD9e6mPmbZK9ERO_bpAaQF24iYmzVrmSgT0kQRgoCUdxDpR3K3NKmbMsItb-bUyE7wnieUo6I62wzDl7Y8k2kvPRRAmYpJHi7S8eqxQUt91pB5zfqnMCSAIF0gvyI8pmZ0IkIkOCPKe_ZaqITRxr_QjxZHwdjgXT1LXO/s425/sad-g1235e0838_640.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Teenager in hoodie holding head" border="0" data-original-height="425" data-original-width="425" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglzlRBNfpIITF7wlmVYLLJKD9e6mPmbZK9ERO_bpAaQF24iYmzVrmSgT0kQRgoCUdxDpR3K3NKmbMsItb-bUyE7wnieUo6I62wzDl7Y8k2kvPRRAmYpJHi7S8eqxQUt91pB5zfqnMCSAIF0gvyI8pmZ0IkIkOCPKe_ZaqITRxr_QjxZHwdjgXT1LXO/s320/sad-g1235e0838_640.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><p>Stress and anxiety are a big part of our home at the moment. Our eldest has recently identified anxiety as his greatest struggle when trying to get through the day. As a teenager who was diagnosed with both autism and ADHD by the time he was seven he has often found it difficult to communicate how he is feeling or what's wrong. It's great that he can do this but it's heart-breaking to hear your child say "I'm scared every moment of every day." </p><p><span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p>It really put things into perspective for him... and me. </p><p>We've always been aware of things to help our autistic son's and our young daughter calm down when they are upset, but trying to de-stress and cope with anxiety that's not one off it something I needed to think about more. What things could potentially help him and what <a href="https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/mental-health-problems-introduction/self-care/" target="_blank">self-help methods</a> could we look at?</p><div><b>Controlling our body </b></div><div><br /></div><div>Focusing on ourselves and using idea from <a href="https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/mindfulness-based-interventions" target="_blank">mindfulness based therapy</a> can help some people relax. </div><br />
Taking a deep breath in for the count of four, holding it for the count of seven, and then releasing it for the count of eight are all components of the deep breathing exercise known as the "4-7-8" technique. This may assist in lowering the heart rate and alleviating feelings of anxiousness.
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Tensing and then relaxing distinct muscle groups throughout the body is what's involved in progressive muscle relaxation. This <a href="https://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/muscle-relaxation-for-stress-insomnia" target="_blank">gradual muscular relaxation</a> starts at the feet and works it way up to the head. This may assist to increase the quality of sleep as well as <a href="https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/16-ways-relieve-stress-anxiety" target="_blank">lessen tension</a> and stress that is held in the body.<div><br /></div><div><b>Visualising and positive mind set</b></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div>Anthony would often talk about 'jinxing' himself into having a bad day. To the point where if he said tomorrow might not be great... it wouldn't be. We take things each day and he is the first to celebrate when it's been a 'good day' which is great. He's learned to think positively about what's coming up and this seems to help him get off to a good start or come back from a stumble. </div><div> <br /></div>Visualisation is a making a mental image of a location or circumstance that brings about emotions of peace and relaxation. A person may, for instance, picture himself on a beach, where they can sense the warmth of the sun on their body and the grainy texture of the sand between their toes. This may assist to lessen the sensations of worry and panic that you are experiencing. This can sometimes be difficult for Anthony, as like many people with autism, he can struggle to make mental images or use his imagination but it works well for many. <div><br /></div><div><b>Choosing what you want to do / don't want to do</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Anthony is not historically great at making decisions but recently has been making a lot of 'no' decisions is an effort to avoid leaving the house or feeling anxious. This is not ideal for him because he may miss out on things he actually wants to do. </div><div><br /></div><div>There is a thought behind <a href="it incorporates exposure therapy, which is a method that involves progressively exposing a person to the thing or scenario that they dread within the context of a secure and managed setting." target="_blank">exposure therapy</a>, which is a method that involves progressively exposing a person to the thing or scenario that they dread within the context of a secure and managed setting. Anthony is capable of sitting with thousands of other people in a grand stand watching a busy and loud Formula One race at Silverstone, but he's overwhelmed getting on a packed bus to go to school. </div><div><br /></div><div>The school bus causes his daily anxiety, there is no plus points and in fact he can walk to school, it just takes a lot longer.</div><div><br /></div><div>So, he chooses to walk to school. It means he copes better on a daily basis. Even thought he's able to cope with crowds when he needs to, when he doesn't need to he takes a break. And giving him the power to choose is important, even if I think his decision to walk an hour to school is a bit daft. </div><div><br /></div><div><b>Outside Support</b></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div>There are also a whole range of therapies that we can look into. Anthony has had a one-off talking therapy session which he found very useful and we are hoping to start these on a more regular basis for him.</div><div> </div>
Hypnotherapy is yet another approach that can be beneficial in treating anxiety. Hypnosis is profound relaxation and an increased receptivity of the mind to suggestions made by the hypnotist. <a href="https://www.fixmymind.co.uk/online-hypnotherapy/" target="_blank">Hypnotherapy online works</a> just the same way as in person and can be good if you don't want to leave your house or go somewhere unfamiliar. <div><br /></div><div>Some people feel that alternative and complementary treatments, such as <a href="https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/acupuncture/about/pac-20392763" target="_blank">acupuncture</a>, herbal supplements, or yoga, are beneficial in addressing their anxiety too. </div><div><br /></div><div>I'm so glad Anthony was able to open up to us about his true feelings. The word anxiety has never been used so much in our house as it has over the past few months. Talking about it and being honest about what he and we think might help is key and what we're going to be focussing on I think. </div><div><br /></div><div>If you've any great ideas, please do add them. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-9918588969659603192023-01-01T09:14:00.001-08:002023-01-01T09:14:49.133-08:00Ways to improve our well-being for 2023<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj22aIbG3XlGTg34emUmFFne6lHQzDDjfjt-ZthiiS4NooiiwflXG9l8edAt-SdX61behYmWVB5SgQ_GYP8a8est2s5tlLmI5KaLiP4rTBB8wphk-pQBPCjltGmAI9L06hE19Mhy0eaBssD0VTRdFQeomh1YKoLONMMRNwN5iAKCqpFId5V1vpmZy8i/s480/woman-g0a96e51e3_640.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Woman mediating by a tree in winter time" border="0" data-original-height="480" data-original-width="480" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj22aIbG3XlGTg34emUmFFne6lHQzDDjfjt-ZthiiS4NooiiwflXG9l8edAt-SdX61behYmWVB5SgQ_GYP8a8est2s5tlLmI5KaLiP4rTBB8wphk-pQBPCjltGmAI9L06hE19Mhy0eaBssD0VTRdFQeomh1YKoLONMMRNwN5iAKCqpFId5V1vpmZy8i/s320/woman-g0a96e51e3_640.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><p>In the last year a lot has changed. It's become obvious that taking care of my family's mental health is a major priority, much more than ever. It's something I've always been aware of but it has turned into a daily concern here. </p><p><span></span></p><a name='more'></a>We've been thinking about Anthony's medications and whether they are still working for him. His ADHD meds have been so important for him in being able to focus but it's possible the heightened focus and also producing heightened emotions too. We're trialling some time without them during the school break. <p></p><p>He and we have developed some bad habits and routines that I think aren't helping - they are often the easy things to do but not always the best. As the new year starts, I've been looking into other things too. </p><div>You don’t need to have superhuman willpower to establish good habits but I often don't know where to start. So here's an idea for me at least; choose one thing each week depending on what works for you. </div><div><br /></div><b>
1 Make movement part of the daily routine</b><div><br /></div><div>There's lots to be said resistance training as it’s so important to build and maintain muscle mass. Reaching for the weights, or simply using your body weight 3 – 4 times a week will increase bone density, and help combat strength, mobility, range of motion, and balance. But I often find this difficult I need things that fit into my busy routine, so I think about walking the dog, but with pace or take a backpack. You don’t need to overdo this, just start light as movement of any kind works wonders for your mind, body, and soul. Once you experience the feeling heightened endorphins give you, you will never look back and this positive vibe will be reinforced each time you move.
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2 Reduce and swap out sugar and high GI foods</b></div><div><br /></div><div>With the body holding on to unused calories and sugars for longer as I age it is vital to reduce my intake but it's often what I reach for as I'm busy and get tired or even worse stressed. Bringing with it a ripple effect on the entire body, not least making it easier for us to gain weight, sugar also disrupts one of the most powerful hormones: insulin. Look out for hidden sugars in your food. Fruit juice and smoothies, for example, can be easily switched to water or tea. My daughter got an air-up water bottle for Christmas which is amazing! It tricks the senses into flavouring water. Another simple adjustment is to swap foods such as white rice and potatoes for brown rice and sweet potatoes. <br /><br /><b>
3 Emotional focus</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Journalling and keeping track of your time is a brilliant way of looking back at achievements. You’ll be amazed how emotions, food, and exercise is all interlinked and by having everything written down, you can also easily spot internal and external triggers. Meditation and self-reflection are also important, along with taking regular digital breaks. Celebrate your achievements too, no matter how small you may consider them to be. Being present and enjoying your life’s successes is crucial for maintaining and nurturing your overall wellbeing.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>4 Clear out</b><br /><br />Some of our family really struggles when the home gets over cluttered and messy. Which isn't great as I'm a person who makes piles of things everywhere. Piles of papers, piles of boxes, piles of bags even. </div><div><br /></div><div>Sometimes it helps us to get rid of some of the things we don't use or store it away in a <a href="https://www.storagearea.com/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">storage area</span></a> or place like loft. This can help me focus on what I need in my life and what I don't but can also be overwhleming. Breaking it down into sorting our smaller areas can help or even asking <a href="https://www.moving.com/tips/dos-donts-asking-friends-for-moving-help/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">your friends and family</span></a> can make getting rid of things a more <a href="https://www.rabbitmovers.com/2020/10/10/6-tips-for-labeling-moving-boxes-like-a-pro/#:~:text=Label%20with%20content%3A%20One%20of,way%20to%20label%20your%20boxes." target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">stress-free moving experience</span></a>. </div><div><br /></div><div><div><b>5 Adopt an accountability partner or work out with a friend</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Once you have committed to yourself having someone else rely on you and vice-versa can be the glue that keeps your motivation strong and helps the habit stick. It makes the entire experience more social, you can share your accomplishments and goals, cheer each other on, and lean on each other for support. Extra support from friends, family, and colleagues can make all the difference when you hit a block.</div></div><div><br /></div><div>If you've got further ideas to help us in 2023, I'd love to know.</div><div><br /></div><div><hr /><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">
<i>Many thanks to Rachael Sacerdoti for her help in coming up with </i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><i>some of the ideas for this post as part of her <a href="http://www.itssosimple.co.uk" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">It's So Simple Method</span></a>. </i></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-39984483888389313962022-12-11T01:44:00.004-08:002022-12-11T01:44:59.886-08:00Protecting our autistic kids in winter weather<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjn8eBEU1juX2H9HKpH8K6--W5IqPxEyIXzEKKM-Vxy_WVPQYFrRF161jot_hKvX5XMOyEYR7L9O_ZlV6sJ1_fz1st9KEQ_xJX64eyQwHIKh4bLwsyr4utzNhUzXrC-vWjhsLBrB2gQTyITbJBOjgNIk_zPp8u-aUyIGR27FDKezkBV7sb8HXu6s-kn/s427/snow-gaafe080cb_640.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="427" data-original-width="427" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjn8eBEU1juX2H9HKpH8K6--W5IqPxEyIXzEKKM-Vxy_WVPQYFrRF161jot_hKvX5XMOyEYR7L9O_ZlV6sJ1_fz1st9KEQ_xJX64eyQwHIKh4bLwsyr4utzNhUzXrC-vWjhsLBrB2gQTyITbJBOjgNIk_zPp8u-aUyIGR27FDKezkBV7sb8HXu6s-kn/s320/snow-gaafe080cb_640.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>As it starts to get very cold, the snow starts to fall and the days become darker we still want to get out and about with our kids but need to be extra careful with them. Our autistic kids can't always communicate with us about how their body is feeling and there senses can become overwhelmed by winter weather. So what can we do to support them?<span><a name='more'></a></span></div><b><br />Protecting their skin</b><br /><br />
You’ve probably seen pictures of people skiing and getting tan lines from their ski goggles. In the summer, getting sunscreen out when the sun is blazing becomes like second nature but we don’t always think about it in the winter. <div><br /></div><div>Protecting your children from the sun when it’s been snowing is vital. It may feel counterintuitive but the snow can reflect up to 80% of the UV rays that the sun puts out. </div><div><br /></div><div>Kids skin is more sensitive to the cold, the winter sun and windburn. Not all kids are comfortable with the feeling of wearing hats but covering their heads isn't just about keeping kids warm. A <a href="https://amzn.to/3W6Ex91" target="_blank">kids trapper hat</a> can be very good for also covering their cheeks and providing extra protection. Windburn or cold cheeks or even a <a href="https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/uk/beauty/skincare/a568427/how-to-treat-a-sunburned-scalp/" target="_blank">burnt scalp</a>. If you notice your child’s skin getting red while you’re out, the best thing you can do is go indoors and apply aftersun to the skin to soothe it.<div><div><br /><b>Protecting their eyes</b><br /><br />
Many kids with autism struggle with bright lights and in the winter the sun gets much lower meaning it can shine directly along our eyeline. Sunglasses are a great idea but you don’t have to opt for traditional sunglasses in the winter. You could also choose <a href="https://blueglasses.com.au/collections/clear-frame" target="_blank">clear glasses</a> with a blue blocker instead. Blue blockers are designed to protect eyes from sun damage so they’re ideal for this time of year.</div><div><br /></div><div>Again trapper hats with peaks work in a similar way but again it can be difficult to protect from the low sun. Sometimes I find I just end up walking in the place to put their face in the shade. <br /><br /><b>Protecting their body</b><br />
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Obvious really, it's cold so we should put our coats on. But not all kids coats, suit all kids. Some kids will like the feeling of a full puffy jacket and others will want something lighter. A coat can sometimes feel stiff or make loud crinkly noises that some kids won't like. If you are looking to develop independence skills, poppers may be better than zips or toggles.<br />
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Lastly, don't forget the hood. Make sure it's soft and comfortable. Some hoods are skip like and will offer further protection from the elements on sensitive faces. Some fall down easily and this can be worrying - ones that have <a href="https://www.muddypuddles.com/rainwear/puddlepac-jacket-dandelion/" target="_blank">elastic around the hood</a> and helps keep it up even if it's windy.<br />
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If they can't stand getting cold or wet at all, you might want to think about a <a href="https://amzn.to/3PeRTOo" target="_blank">full kids snow suit</a> to keep them dry.<br />
<br /><b>Protecting their feet</b></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div>Easier said than done with kids running around and jumping in puddles, or like my lot, simply not watching where they step.</div><div><br />
Usually our ADHD and ASD son struggles with <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2017/03/weve-got-to-get-our-kids-outside-and.html" target="_blank">wellington boots</a>. They flop around on his feet, but <a href="https://amzn.to/2GBuAi4" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">these ones have slip in liners</a> that keep his feet firmly in place so he doesn't fall or tire as easily. <br />
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We can't get wellington boots on our younger son at all - he wears shoes, the same ones all the time. He feels safe in the same shoes when he goes out. It's pretty common for autistic kids to want to wear their same <a href="https://www.riverisland.com/c/girls/footwear" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">shoes</a>, even if the weather is different.<br />
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However, we can get him into comfortable <a href="https://www.sockshop.co.uk/featured/bamboo" target="_blank">bamboo socks</a> which are breathable and wick away moisture. They are also quick to dry if he does happen to get his feet a bit wet.<br />
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<b>Finally, think about sound</b><br />
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Remember that crinkly coat? And have you heard rain hammering on the path? All these noises can be heightened if you are a child with autism or sensory processing difficulties. And it's not just the rain, I've seen the same thing <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2015/12/gale-winds-and-low-sun-is-this-what-it.html" target="_blank">when it's windy too</a>.<br />
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<a href="https://amzn.to/2Cui8MU" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">A waterproof hat</a> may help with this, especially if it was under a hood. Kids ear muffs or ear defenders may work for others. Go for whatever interests you child. Anthony wouldn't wear any until we presented him with <a href="http://amzn.to/2nlakV3" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">super hero ear muffs</a> and then it worked. Appealing to a <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/03/sons-special-interest-letter.html" target="_blank">special interest</a> can help.<br /></div></div></div><div><br /></div><div>If you have any any other ideas, let us know. </div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-62405140014641324812022-12-07T08:50:00.000-08:002022-12-11T01:45:16.222-08:00Gift ideas to help develop imaginary play<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDZa0nFxinawktK_9n3ylegmebUZEAjPkK4wKXYrD0uL7pqJbqotZpB0qN2uxh4q4uxP8VBhLH8opWEpOTXv_tKQk4cFT38gJdHWmTswLummr1rNvWVio1FaQbgvV1FMI1XYiUYqFc7pWE9yExdSj9LZJLXsrK8VHJJ2fl6nQ_oAeUfTdynPFXvIGT/s426/toy-cash-register-g4478437c4_640.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="426" data-original-width="425" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiDZa0nFxinawktK_9n3ylegmebUZEAjPkK4wKXYrD0uL7pqJbqotZpB0qN2uxh4q4uxP8VBhLH8opWEpOTXv_tKQk4cFT38gJdHWmTswLummr1rNvWVio1FaQbgvV1FMI1XYiUYqFc7pWE9yExdSj9LZJLXsrK8VHJJ2fl6nQ_oAeUfTdynPFXvIGT/s320/toy-cash-register-g4478437c4_640.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><p>Many kids with autism struggle to develop their imagination and struggle with enjoying imaginative play. It's something we've really worked on and our middle son is just getting there with some things in it. There's lots of ways to access your imagination but many kids with autism find it difficult to create things from nothing and we've found that providing props and support is a way to support them. Here's some ideas if you are looking for things this Christmas. <span></span></p><a name='more'></a><p></p><p><b>Roll play and costumes</b></p><p>Whether it's picking up on their favourite movies, tv series or obsessions, there are many costumes and dress up options to help kids use their imagination. Mirrors can be helpful as the kids can really see themselves as the character, profession, person or animal they are dressed as and can then act out scenes or even start to make up their own stories. </p><p>How about being <a href="https://amzn.to/3h9tT2J" target="_blank">Mirabel</a> from Encanto, <a href="https://amzn.to/3iU2lyw">Spiderman</a> from the Marvel movies and act out scenes. Or be something from real life like a <a href="https://amzn.to/3UOCOEa" target="_blank">Firefighter</a> or a <a href="https://amzn.to/3he8TYm" target="_blank">chef</a>?</p><p><b>Activity playsets</b></p><p>One of the best ways our kids developed imaginative play is through playsets that act out an activity, like shopping, baking or fixing a car. Anthony was always into <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2017/06/whose-birthday-is-it-today.html" target="_blank">Formula One</a> and the idea of being able to fix a car or do a pit stop was a way of connecting the play with him. We could make a big box into a car and he could use <a href="https://amzn.to/3Pes0OK" target="_blank">toy tools</a> to fix and get it ready to race. The ones that look the most realistic were the easiest to use as they actually looked like the real thing.</p><p>It was the same with the tea / toaster set we got. It looked like a small version of the real thing. Anthony knew it was a toy but it wasn't abstract by having a smiling face on it. For some kids this worked great buy Anthony made us imaginary breakfast using his real life looking <a href="https://amzn.to/3VLVJkv" target="_blank">Bosch breakfast set</a> because he knew what it was. <a href="https://amzn.to/3HqYVh5" target="_blank">Baking</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/3PhXFPp" target="_blank">shopping sets</a> were also a good idea. A baking one could also be used if you got a chef's dress up. The more we were able to fill in for the kids, the less they had to work to engage their imagination. </p><p><b>Books</b></p><p>Books can be a great way of engaging kids imagination. Books provide lots of a story and background for your imagination which means you can just fill in the parts you are able to with your imagination. </p><p>Some books come with characters like this one we got about <a href="https://amzn.to/3iR7iIu" target="_blank">The Gruffalo</a> which came with finger puppets. This allows the story to be run with puppets and helps bring it out of the page. But there are lots of <a href="https://amzn.to/3hiycIT" target="_blank">books with different types of puppets</a> that can bring a story alive and help kids engage with books and their imagination. </p><p>If you've other ideas, please do get in touch and let me know. We're always interested in helping our kids develop their imagination. </p>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-59665535775543278042022-11-15T09:36:00.007-08:002022-11-22T06:06:32.782-08:00Tips for parents as more children need speech and language support<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9OU9P5tjDStjs65773qVsc3BikX5TbSvqZ52Oc7VkhXjoyQ-M_njh5diEpJGiKKOr5zAuKEVfHczkkkoLEuSFav90IlgiB_-_5TAFZaOxkhA_I2XD2k3mP6acBiLBIG46sFrjEdHAd5lnG2AB5SAr_FxBhUDHNgrQZqoDFFMQaLaY0WRo77f_zpFE/s426/toy-g0e80f7e1f_640.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Pens and paper with drawings" border="0" data-original-height="426" data-original-width="426" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9OU9P5tjDStjs65773qVsc3BikX5TbSvqZ52Oc7VkhXjoyQ-M_njh5diEpJGiKKOr5zAuKEVfHczkkkoLEuSFav90IlgiB_-_5TAFZaOxkhA_I2XD2k3mP6acBiLBIG46sFrjEdHAd5lnG2AB5SAr_FxBhUDHNgrQZqoDFFMQaLaY0WRo77f_zpFE/s320/toy-g0e80f7e1f_640.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><p></p>I saw a <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-63373804" target="_blank">recent article on the BBC</a> that showed the number of five and six-year-olds who need speech and language support at school has risen by 10% in England over the past year. As a parent of two children with speech and language and communication difficulties, related to their autism diagnoses, I know of the huge stretch this must create on the system.<span><a name='more'></a></span><br /><br /><div>
Experts claim the increase, which is substantially greater than in previous years, is partly due to the lockdown limiting social interactions.<br /><br />
Danielle Saccardi, a language expert from <a href="https://preply.com/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">Preply</span></a>, has said that identifying and helping a child who has difficulties developing skills such as comprehension, clarity, voice, fluency and sound production at an early age is extremely important. But that it is not always easy to identify if a child has a speech impediment or difficulty with language development, especially amongst a large number of pupils.<div><br /></div><div>I know from my own experience that speech therapy delivery in schools has changed over the years my kids have been in them. It's ultimately led to less time with therapists as they spend more time training staff in techniques to use with children and less time delivering it themselves. Of course this helps with delivering some therapy potentially every day to children but results in them spending minimal time with an expert.</div><div><br /></div><div>Although we aren't experts, parents too can help by taking on the role of supporting their child's language development. I remember one Christmas I spent each day focusing on a different technique to help my kids communicate. My <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/search?q=baubles+%26+babbles" target="_blank">Christmas Bauble & Babbles</a> I called it. The BBC put together some helpful tips for parents to and here's what I'd add to them.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Follow their lead</b></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div>Make some time for playing and chatting with your child every day and follow their lead. </div><div><br /></div><div>My daughter, Jane, was busy make a big mess with the felt tip pens and the colouring books she had pulled off the shelf. David, our autistic son, was looking at a small book collection nearby. I thought I would try to engage him by picking up one of the books and looking at it.
But David wasn't interested in me having a book. </div><div><br /></div><div>In fact, me having a book meant he abandoned them altogether and started playing with the felt tip pens. Reading the book I had in my hands was no good, I was only able to engage him when I started to help him line up the pens.
I asked him which colour he would like next? And he responded until we had lined up the pens a few times.
Only by following David's agenda did I manage to engage him and get him to communicate with me.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Make comments rather than asking your child lots of questions</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Questions can be helpful but even a child isn't confident with what the answer could be then they might just not answer at all. When I asked David which colour pen he wanted I already knew he was very happy identifying pens by their colour but there are many things where I give him options instead to limit the number of responses he has to think about. Questions can also often feel like a test to children and they can be worried about getting it wrong. </div><div><br /></div><div><b>Share books with your child</b></div><div><br /></div><div>This can be any type of book. It doesn't even have to include words as this can be overwhelming for some kids. Photo albums are a great thing to look through as they are relevant and we can point out things on the photos. I don't need to ask questions but I can encourage commenting my pointing to things and waiting for my child to fill in the blank. Oh look 'Grandma is wearing a ....' </div><div><br /></div><div><b>Build a good relationship with your child's school</b></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div>The final piece of advice from the BBC was to build a good relationship with your school. This isn't always easy to do especially if you and the school disagree on the challenges your child is facing. We've been fortunate in that even though budgets are stretched our kids have had an EHCP so talking about their challenges is a requirement every year. If you think your child might <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/search?q=ehcp" target="_blank">need more support at school</a> - I've got <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2017/09/the-five-things-to-know-if-you-are.html" target="_blank">a post</a> about it here. </div><div><br /></div></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-66302263943313681622022-10-31T11:00:00.000-07:002022-11-15T09:37:24.522-08:00Taking an online 'ADHD' test<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEguFh2FyTyYo1RZgBO9RZ2RpDpHUJtgCXxorFvzUqpMe3WOnAgNFWYAhk4NcwdKCqRIvkwFeChu2bjhqxmxvXC27vYjF8j0ofSo9LQezEuncgmQFYem9GjPzEWsrpV_n0M6IFO0WccIzLDocJx_u8iufqSE1g_atBvX1p9nnlGOtV4k4nrEKolxIJz8/s719/adhd-g5154b2d43_1280.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="719" data-original-width="719" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEguFh2FyTyYo1RZgBO9RZ2RpDpHUJtgCXxorFvzUqpMe3WOnAgNFWYAhk4NcwdKCqRIvkwFeChu2bjhqxmxvXC27vYjF8j0ofSo9LQezEuncgmQFYem9GjPzEWsrpV_n0M6IFO0WccIzLDocJx_u8iufqSE1g_atBvX1p9nnlGOtV4k4nrEKolxIJz8/s320/adhd-g5154b2d43_1280.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>
<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">Every now and again, there is a test published to help the reader see if they might be on the autism spectrum. Often they coincide with an article on the subject. Last year published research showed that parents of autistic kids often have autistic traits too. Most times that I see a test like the one in </span><a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/11974282/Are-you-on-the-autistic-spectrum-Take-the-test.html" target="_blank"><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">The Telegraph</span></a><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"> online but I've also seen a few for ADHD recently too, and yesterday I filled one out. </span><br />
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<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">When our first child, Anthony was diagnosed with Autism (ASD) aged 4, it was explained that 'genetics' could be one of the 'causes' of his condition. When our second child David was also diagnosed before his 4th birthday, it seemed more probable. By this point we had gathered an in depth knowledge of different traits and how they displayed in our very different kids with ASD. But we could also spot tendencies in ourselves. </span><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">Then at 7, we thought Anthony's difficulties didn't all fit with his ASD diagnosis and after a bit of research we thought he might have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). He just seemed to struggle in areas that were not always consistent with his ASD diagnosis and ticked a lot of boxes with ADHD. </span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">Many kids with ASD have comorbid conditions, one's that are likely to co-occur and having both ASD and ADHD is quite common indeed. Our real concern was that it could mean Anthony needed some different types of support or medication to help him. </span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">So we went to the <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2015/12/art-neuro.html" target="_blank">neuro department</a> at a hospital a good while away across London and Anthony sat, squirmed and didn't answers during a test and assessment. When we got the report it described that Anthony need a score of 70/100 for a diagnosis and his score was 92. So yes, ADHD. </span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">But as he has grown (I can barely believe he is 14 years old already) and I've become more familiar with the condition I've often thought I'm more likely to have ADHD than ASD. No surprise, the online ADHD agreed with me. </span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span>
<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">I found that whilst I was answering the questions for me, I was also aware of the answer that would indicate ADHD; 'Do you find you lose important items?' ....tick, 'Do you lose interest in finishing tasks after the main part is completed especially if it is not of interest'...major tick. 'Do you focus on small things instead of the larger project'... tick. I was also pretty sure of the answer that would apply to our, Anthony, and knew if I filled out the questions as him it would result in a high ADHD score (obviously). What I found more interesting though was that I thought Anthony would fill out questions differently now compared to seven years ago when he was diagnosed. </span><br />
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<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">Anthony's views of his own skills have matured over the past years and is awareness of help and how we have helped him has had an impact. </span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">Seven years ago we helped Anthony with many things. We organised what he needed for school for him and organised all his clothes. Anthony would be lost if his shoes were not at the bottom of the stairs to put on so that's where we would always put them at night. Seven years ago therefore he would not have thought he lost anything, because it was always back in place. </span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">Now we have given him more responsibility and he has things he treasures and does not want to lose - like his phone! </span><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">So now we help him with strategies to find things, which means he understands that he loses things a lot. </span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">On the other hand, he probably would still answer some things without regards for his challenges. For example, Anthony definitely </span>loses interest in finishing tasks after the main part is completed especially if it is not of interest<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"> to him. I'm right now looking at an open half almost emptied dishwasher. </span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif">Anthony will have put all the 'easy' things away and then stopped when its got complicated like he doesn't know where everything goes or the remaining items require more care eg. they are glasses. Often Anthony just gets distracted and so doesn't even recognise that this has happened. I'll call him down to finish it and he won't even realise that it's the same job he didn't previously complete. </span></div><div>
<span face=""arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif"><br /></span>So it's something we are working on, but I'm pleased that I can see the change and recognition of himself in his challenges as it's the way to come up with strategies to help.</div><div><br /></div><div>As for me? Well I'm pretty sure if I went to <a href="https://www.adhdcentre.co.uk/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #444444;">The ADHD Centre</span></a> I'd find that I would be diagnosed as having the condition. But honestly I don't know what I would actually do about it. The truth is that throughout my life I've come to realise that I'm good at somethings and struggle with others. I know that without strict watching of a clock I will be late. I know that it's much better if I organise everything in the calm of the evening before the event than the day of. But I also know that I'm great in a crisis as I'm very focused on solving the problem at hand... just not great at any of the to be followed up later tasks. </div><div><br /></div><div>This means that I've got a set of strategies that mean I can get on, I can do well. In fact I would have said in a job interview 20 years ago that organisation was one of my strong points... because I'd had to be organised to turn up on time - at least for me! And this means whereas Anthony's ADHD diagnosis was really helpful, I'm probably just about OK as I am. But I'm still learning and thankfully, so is he. </div><div>
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<br /></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-52304250737596447592022-10-24T07:02:00.006-07:002022-10-30T04:39:18.267-07:00Three Diwali craft ideas for our autistic kids<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br /></div>It's Diwali! This is a wonderful tradition originating in India, known to many as the festival of light. But it’s not just about lights and legends –– Diwali is a time to have fun with friends and family! People exchange gifts and sweets, enjoy delicious feasts, watch firework displays and wear new clothes. For us, it's a time to learn and we can celebrate with some fun Diwali themed activities. <br />
<a name='more'></a><br /><b>1. Diwali Lanterns</b><div><br /></div><div>Many homes will be lit with lanterns throughout the 5 days of Diwali. People celebrate it via symbolic diyas or kandils (colorful paper lanterns) as an integral part of Diwali decorations. So why not have a go. It's a great way of practising cutting skills. To make your own kandils Lantern you will need:<br />
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<li>Coloured A4 paper - or colour your own if you like some extra pen control practice</li>
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Help get ready for cutting by folding your coloured paper in half length ways and drawing on some guide marks. You will need to cut a strip off the end of your paper to make the lantern handle later and then make short slits along the length of your paper. Once you have drawn the lines you can get your kiddie to cut along the lines. There's a great template on <a href="https://www.twinkl.co.uk/resource/us-t-t-4250-diwali-paper-lantern-templates-activity" target="_blank">twinkl</a> here. </div><div><br /></div><div>If your kiddie is finding the scissor action a bit difficult you might like to try <a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/s/ref=as_li_ss_tl?url=search-alias=aps&field-keywords=easy+grip+scissors&sprefix=easi+gr,aps,153&crid=1RFQIW12UIL7O&linkCode=ll2&tag=rainboaretoob-21&linkId=54db5b57d856c45eae814cd23f872dbc" target="_blank">Easigrip scissors</a> like we have. They help develop the closing technique and also spring open so no fingers get caught. After it's been cut, open the paper back out and decorate it. We used stickers, feathers and lots of environmentally friendly glitter! </div><div>
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Put the bowls of things around the table to encourage your kiddie to cross their midline while getting their decorations - crossing his mid-line was one of the things my eldest autistic son really struggled with.</div><div><br /></div><div>After they are finished with their masterpiece stick the two short ends of your paper together to make the lantern shape and use the leftover strip from the beginning to make a handle. Hang them outside, or door handles or like along some string.</div><div>
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If you are very careful, you can drop a tea light into a tall glass and place your lantern over the top for a real life lantern effect. Using battery <a href="http://amzn.to/2C4AUXZ" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">operated flameless tea lights</a> also does the trick.</div><div><br /></div><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br /><b>2. Firework paint splat activity</b> </div><div><br /></div><div>Fireworks can go off during the celebration and this can sometimes be fun but a bit scary so we make it known by doing a craft. <br />
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To make your own splat fireworks effect picture like above you will need:<br />
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<li>Paint - various colours like fireworks and we've used paint with a sheen to be more effective. You can use <a href="http://amzn.to/2zWjb49" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">fluorescent</a> paint, <a href="http://amzn.to/2z1qNmw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">metallic</a> paint or our favourite <a href="http://amzn.to/2zkt67k" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">pearlised paint</a>. Alternatively just add some glitter to regular kids paint.</li>
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<li>Glue and glitter - although we cheated and used <a href="http://amzn.to/2zTncWV" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">glitter paint</a></li>
<li>Black or dark paper works great but it's fun on whatever colour you have</li>
<li>Sponge cut into a circular shapes or sponge balls - one for each colour</li>
<li>Bowls for your paints (and sponges)</li>
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Then it's simple, aprons on and sleeves up!</div>
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Add a coloured paint to each bowl and add a few drops of water, just to help it 'splat'. If you are not in the habit of getting painty fingers then use sponge cut into circular shapes. Get your kiddie to dab and splat the shapes onto the page. </div>
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If it's all about mess in your place then see if you can get some sponge balls. Have fun (outside probably) throwing paint coloured balls down onto or at your page. Careful - things will get messy!</div>
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For either way, put the bowls of paint around the table or outside to get the kids using their motor skills. Once a bit dry you can finish off with extra glue and glitter or <a href="http://amzn.to/2A2qBUp" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">metallic marker pens</a>. </div></div></div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIVn3szYtZMS_AuyTNTWQuXuU1FFiq6Igd6JQpPItQiYq5GzZIo_FHIsOnVJgHt8ePCrZ_dhb7Bqts6iloTqekzPTtnI-EQgbKAgZSJy3KgwplhbljV8wMs2WA-K00CIhMTZhnneS7T8U6P0cVACUyWWb2bFWxU8foEggcKb4fCGVqYOOqn-RySdSw/s389/pexels-karolina-grabowska-6633735.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="389" data-original-width="389" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgIVn3szYtZMS_AuyTNTWQuXuU1FFiq6Igd6JQpPItQiYq5GzZIo_FHIsOnVJgHt8ePCrZ_dhb7Bqts6iloTqekzPTtnI-EQgbKAgZSJy3KgwplhbljV8wMs2WA-K00CIhMTZhnneS7T8U6P0cVACUyWWb2bFWxU8foEggcKb4fCGVqYOOqn-RySdSw/s320/pexels-karolina-grabowska-6633735.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div><b>3. Mindfulness or colour by number Rangoli</b></div><div><br /></div>Rangoli is a popular Diwali tradition –– beautiful patterns made using colourful powders and flowers. People draw rangoli on the floor by the entrance of their homes to welcome the gods and bring good luck! <div><br /></div><div>You can either draw your own or print some out and then either let the kids colour freely or write numbers on parts and list colours on the side. This helps with number recognition and pencil control which is a great skill to work on with our kids who can struggle in these areas. </div><div><br /></div><div>Have you got any great ideas for this half term week?</div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-14683181265185183032022-10-07T06:54:00.011-07:002022-10-30T04:35:08.292-07:00Some advice from others for additional needs parents<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJy6jVMAGkcnnWEU3gsgnEyhKmcFZe51N3bJ_6dcwZGHTUndYVX_CNtb2Ou9BTwBsbjVa_ax1ZbClPBSZoWQ_uDSG003_MrhOwUcDo1aPeB4FxP4GJZY1_AyxiChcPTPI7aC6q8Oef91vXEqPSL33ZfLGVnGGSIx4rjeGk5VrvWKV1MwF6EqKGT0q2/s800/mother-2605132_1920.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="800" data-original-width="800" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJy6jVMAGkcnnWEU3gsgnEyhKmcFZe51N3bJ_6dcwZGHTUndYVX_CNtb2Ou9BTwBsbjVa_ax1ZbClPBSZoWQ_uDSG003_MrhOwUcDo1aPeB4FxP4GJZY1_AyxiChcPTPI7aC6q8Oef91vXEqPSL33ZfLGVnGGSIx4rjeGk5VrvWKV1MwF6EqKGT0q2/s320/mother-2605132_1920.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div>Parenting a child with additional needs comes with a unique set of challenges. Most of my experiences come from my amazing kids but it' means I most understand things from parenting kids with autism and ADHD. Here's some tips from others that has a focus on supporting those with cerebral palsy. Like autism, cerebral palsy is a lifelong condition, however if affects the individual in a different way.</div><span><a name='more'></a></span><br />
Autism is a lifelong developmental disability which affects how people communicate and interact with the world, whereas cerebral palsy affects movement and co-ordination. It's caused by a problem with the brain that develops before, during or soon after birth. However it's maybe no surprise that much of the advice was the same and I'm happy to share. Here's what was suggested.
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1. Have a good support system <br /><br />
The challenges of parenting a child with additional needs can be overwhelming at times. It’s important to have a strong support system in place, whether it’s family, friends, or support groups. Having people to talk to who understand what you’re going through can be a huge help. <br /><br />
2. Resources and information<br /><br />
There is a lot to learn when you have an additional needs child special needs child. Having reliable resources and information on hand can be very helpful. The internet, library, and local organisations are all great places to start. To read up on cerebral palsy, for example, parents can go to websites like <a href="https://www.mencap.org.uk/learning-disability-explained/conditions-linked-learning-disability/cerebral-palsy?gclid=Cj0KCQjwnP-ZBhDiARIsAH3FSRfzjoTYOETPVY9tjXqOarY2zC7YLcdTQomDf8WU20ufjYV2nhGiVVQaAu1dEALw_wcB" target="_blank">Mencap's</a> or <a href="https://www.scope.org.uk/advice-and-support/cerebral-palsy/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwnP-ZBhDiARIsAH3FSRcwer4YTEl4FP1Gk48tYL0jsOE4EH9JPuswQZSTjnzXrQZL4znY14YaAqobEALw_wcB" target="_blank">Scope's</a> information, a <a href="https://dianerostron.co.uk/cerebral-palsy-solicitors/">cerebral palsy solicitor</a> or <a href="http://cerebralpalsy.org.uk">cerebralpalsy.org.uk</a>.<br /><br />
3. A flexible schedule<br /><br />
Additional needs children can often require a lot of appointments and therapies. Having a flexible schedule can make it much easier to manage everything. If possible, consider working from home or arranging for a flexible work schedule. Being agile with your time will make a big difference in being able to address all of your child’s needs.<br /><br />
4. Patience and understanding<br /><br />
Dealing with the challenges of a child with additional needs can be frustrating at times. It’s important to have patience and understanding, both for your child and yourself. Remember that progress may be slow but it is possible.<br /><br />
5. A positive attitude and sense of humour<br /><br />
It’s important to maintain a positive attitude, even when things are tough. Having a positive outlook can make a big difference in how you cope with the challenges of parenting an additional needs child. A sense of humour can help you get through tough times and enjoy the good times too.<br /><br /><br />
Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-57545195143499029402022-10-03T08:43:00.002-07:002022-10-03T08:43:19.288-07:00Five things that cause stress for my autistic kids<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggY-eiAudyrQYRnUQHK8kVPNEI32wz2qYgWSz4F-TlKlN4yASOMvpqsSi_AeebP3MDqvBQLyxgAS_zlkTdnnuonwbiPIgTEpg_aCwqeL-LBt7VaS1mdODQE5zFq-YV8FAWIa_v_fPmHAg/s425/cry-2764845_640.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="425" data-original-width="425" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEggY-eiAudyrQYRnUQHK8kVPNEI32wz2qYgWSz4F-TlKlN4yASOMvpqsSi_AeebP3MDqvBQLyxgAS_zlkTdnnuonwbiPIgTEpg_aCwqeL-LBt7VaS1mdODQE5zFq-YV8FAWIa_v_fPmHAg/s320/cry-2764845_640.jpg" /></a></div><p></p>My kids can become frustrated for a variety of reasons and it isn’t always easy to pinpoint the underlying cause of their emotions. Once a few of these things start piling up it can ending causing them a stress they can no longer cope with. Two of them have communications difficulties, but even our daughter can struggle sometime to explain what she's feeling or why. As a parent of autistic kids I've learned to behave like a detective and have found several things that cause my kids to escalate <span><a name='more'></a></span><div><br /></div><div>Here are some of the most common reasons why my kids may feel frustrated and situations that lead them to become stressed or overwhelmed:<div><br /><b>
1. Sensory Triggers</b><br /><br />
Many kids with <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/search/label/Autism" target="_blank">autism</a> to become upset, frustrated or angry if they’re exposed to sensory triggers. Some children can’t tolerate the feeling of certain fabrics, for example, but there's so many things. It could be the texture of specific foods, bright lights, <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2015/12/gale-winds-and-low-sun-is-this-what-it.html" target="_blank">the weather</a> or loud sounds. My kids may be unable to explain exactly what they dislike about something, which is why they appear frustrated or uncomfortable. I have to look at the environment and try and figure out what's just happened or changed to figure out what's going on and hope to help them.<div><br /></div><div>When there’s too much going on around a kid, it’s easy for them to become overstimulated, which leads to frustration. This is particularly common for kids on the spectrum, who can find everyday situations excessively stimulating. We try and ensure there is a quiet place to retreat to at home and use things like ear protectors and sunglasses to prevent overstimulation if we need to. <br /><br /><b>2. Things not working the way they should</b></div><div><br /></div><div>This is most easily recognised with our electronic devices. Whether it's my mac <a href="https://macpaw.com/how-to/macos-ventura-wont-boot" target="_blank">not booting up</a> , the wifi dropping out or an app that won't play properly because it needs an update... it can be the thing that tips my kids over the edge. <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2018/10/why-my-autistic-son-spends-hours.html" target="_blank">Technology is often a way that my kids relax</a> and a thing they seek out when they are feeling stressed and if this goes wrong then it's all the stress and frustration that comes out. </div><div><br /></div><div>Trying to let apps update overnight an help with this. We also have a timer handy to help with the 'waiting' while they update or other things get sorted. <br /><div><br /><b>
3. Overtired or hungry</b><br /><br />This is one I often forget about. Two of my kids have sleeping difficulties which generally means they easily stay up late, but I often forget that's not that case for our daughter. No matter how much she insists she's not tired or tries to avoid going to bed at a reasonable hour, it’s vital she gets enough sleep. If an infant misses a nap or an older child has too many ‘late nights’, you’ll undoubtedly see a change in their behaviour. Fortunately <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/search?q=sleep" target="_blank">I've been dealing with sleep challenges for years</a> and know how to wind things up and get her to sleep.</div><div><br /></div><div>If you’ve ever felt ‘<a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/1a20080e-5d47-447f-b7a6-41ee85649fad#:~:text=It%20might've%20been%20taken,level%20drops%2C%22%20he%20writes." target="_blank">hangry</a>’ yourself, you’ll know just how much being hungry can impact your mood! It’s the same for kids. With school timetables now being home timetables some things slip... like dinner time. I'm not surprised if my kid's mood or behaviour takes a turn for the worse if we’ve pushed a meal back or not eaten much. There is nothing like regular mealtimes to help with this and my kids all enjoy the routine of it, but sometimes growth spurts etc mean they need more. It's ok to have to help ward off hunger between meals and can ensure that being ‘hangry’ doesn’t happen so much. <br /><br /><b>4. Unexpected breaks in routine or something happening not as planned</b><br /><br />If David starts gets stressed or upset one thing I check quickly is if we are doing anything different or if I forgot to tell him what we were doing that day. School days are usually <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2017/11/routines-seem-to-benefit-us-all.html" target="_blank">the best for routines</a>, but often our weekends are a mix of random activities based around relaxing visiting family and other jobs and things the kids have on. </div><div><br /></div><div>If David doesn't know what's going on he can't prepare himself and the whole day becomes a guessing game for him. It's no surprise that he gets stressed later, he needs time to adapt and we haven't given him it. </div><div><br /></div><div><b>5. Communication</b></div><div><br /></div><div>I know I said most behaviour is about communication, but needing something to fixed, changed, stopped and not being able to tell someone who can help you about it is awful. Our younger son is nearly 10 and <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2016/01/why-all-forms-of-communication-are.html" target="_blank">can barely string two words together</a> but that doesn't mean he doesn't want to express more than he can say. A quarter of people with autism are non-verbal and frustration with not being able to communicate what they need to could lead to <a href="https://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/search?q=meltdown" target="_blank">a meltdown where the status quo is simply unbearable</a>. </div><div><br /></div><div>These can also happen with a sensory trigger too, but if it's due to us simply not being able to understand what our son is asking us to do we can try and stop a meltdown occurring by helping him communicate his frustrations before it gets to this point. We offer our hand for him to lead us to problems, we say words or present him with pictures for him to be able to chose the ones to help him communicate his problem. </div><div><br />
Frustration and stress are normal emotions, and they can be healthy, in the right context - we've all seen Inside Out right (if not just google it). Saying how we feel, singing a song about it, signing or pointing to an image of a sad face for example, all help them recognise their feelings. It's the first part of being able to work through their feelings and figure out if they need support or what they should do next. </div></div></div></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-43227901945621004282022-09-23T10:46:00.006-07:002022-10-30T04:40:33.449-07:00Preparing our autistic kids for a trip to the dentist<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7ow_Jem21U5ukxtczS5iLq1IgnekulDkblVhXnOv30JAo3eaHKp70SZN9K2terKhWoqcJ30eef9rw99sRpCBKw5wL6_sBoVWGmt0yaKMahvAXphRMD86zFrpXALZ8yt2kymkHWwWY6amlmORF0kzxAW4WrHXeYL_H5Lp0e689GsuFlHqn37jwAXDQ/s427/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8762982.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="Kids brushing their teeth" border="0" data-original-height="427" data-original-width="427" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh7ow_Jem21U5ukxtczS5iLq1IgnekulDkblVhXnOv30JAo3eaHKp70SZN9K2terKhWoqcJ30eef9rw99sRpCBKw5wL6_sBoVWGmt0yaKMahvAXphRMD86zFrpXALZ8yt2kymkHWwWY6amlmORF0kzxAW4WrHXeYL_H5Lp0e689GsuFlHqn37jwAXDQ/s320/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8762982.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br /> We all know just how important it is that we take good care of our dental health at every age. Children need to have a good oral hygiene routine in place as soon as possible if they are to grow up with healthy teeth and gums. But it's not always easy, in fact for some of my kids it's anything but. <p></p><span><a name='more'></a></span> <div>Unfortunately, many children, and especially kids who have been <a href="http://www.rainbowsaretoobeautiful.com/2022/07/5-tips-for-parents-of-recently.html" target="_blank">diagnosed with autism</a>, hate the feeling of brushing their teeth and flossing to keep their mouths clean and healthy. Our David had to go to hospital to have extractions when he was just four and a half. </div><div><br /></div><div>David is under the care of a community dentist but still find appointments extremely difficult. Our other autistic son also finds go to the dentist very stressful. Here's some things we've found out of that can help with taking care of their teeth and preparing for a trip to the dentist. <br /><br /><b>
Try different toothbrushes and toothpastes</b><br /><br />
It is really important that children clean their teeth twice a day. If your child hates the feel of the toothbrush in their mouth, one thing you can do is to try out lots of different toothbrushes with different levels of softness of hardness and different styles of handles. </div><div><br /></div><div>We've found some of the most helpful ones are those for young children. They have angled bristles which help clean more of the tooth quicker and they are usually soft too. However they need replacing often because of this. <br /><br />
You can even get musical toothbrushes that play a song for two minutes while the kids brush and this can encourage reluctant brushes to see their dental routine as a fun thing, so it may be worth trying that too.</div><div><br /></div><div>Some toothpaste flavours are really strong especially the minty ones and my eldest autistic son says it actually burns his mouth. This is probably why David never let a toothbrush into his mouth when he was younger. We've found flavourless and non-foaming toothpaste by <a href="https://amzn.to/3firqBm" target="_blank">Oranurse</a> that transformed being able to brush the kids teeth. They also do a mild flavour that is actually mild!</div><div><br /></div><div>We all brush our teeth together so the kids can copy, get help and make it a family activity.<br /><br /><b>Prepare them for what happens at the dentist and do what you can at home</b></div><div><br /></div><div>Although quiet, most dental visits includes a quick turn around, lying down on a strange chair and then having a stranger get really close to your face and put instruments in your mouth. It's no wonder it puts children and adults alike at unease. We're so fortunate to have a dentist and a dental nurse in our wider family and it's meant we can prepare the kids for what happens at the dentist before evening going. </div><div><br /></div><div>We practice sitting sideways on the sofa and leaning back on the armrests a bit like what happens in the seat at the dentist. We practice looking in their mouths. We use a toothbrush to count their teeth, just like they do at a dentist.</div><div><br /></div><div>Reading books about what happens at the dentist can be great for some kids and having pictures so they know what and hen it is going to happen can also help prepare the kids. </div><div><br /></div><div>Our eldest needed his teeth cleaned at the dentist and this involved spraying water in his mouth and using a tool to suck it out again. This is noisy and feels very odd. A collegue suggested a water flosser, like a <br /><a href="https://www.waterpik.co.uk/kids-floss" target="_blank">Waterpik</a> to try and replicate the feeling of water going into their mouth which I thought could be a good idea too. instead. Waterpiks are generally much gentler and easier to use than floss which is something that is very tricky for us to even try. <br /><br />
If your child needs braces there are various ones that can be used to <a href="https://www.smilepath.com.au/does-pushing-your-teeth-straighten-them/" target="_blank">straighten teeth at home</a> so again think about what works best. Invisible aligners is probably a good idea because they will stand out less and might not cause your child as many issues. So many autistic children are very particular about the way they look and anything that changes that can cause distress, which is why invisible braces are often the best choice.
<br /><br /><b>Show them the dentist</b><br /><br />Like everything else with our autistic and ADHD kids showing them where they are going and who they are going to meet is really important. It can be difficult but if there is any chance to go to the dentist without having anything done to have a look at the room and meet the dentist this can be really helpful.</div><div><br /></div><div>If not, see if you can photos of the dentist surgery and the dentist your child will be seeing. One with and without a face mask would be helpful so they can see the person but also see what they will look like when it's time.</div><div><br /></div><div>Sometimes taking a child along to your own check-up or a siblings check-up can be helpful but best done if you think it's going to be quick and mostly all-clear. </div><div><br /></div><div>Despite having dental professionals in the family this is something we still struggle with and put off. But hopefully these things might help.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>Ann Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com0