tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post8470643828480397873..comments2024-03-28T05:51:15.117-07:00Comments on Rainbowsaretoobeautiful: The day I hid I had kids with disabilitiesAnn Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-14480305602133777982018-01-06T15:22:49.601-08:002018-01-06T15:22:49.601-08:00I love this post! I dont think you did the wrong t...I love this post! I dont think you did the wrong thing by your kids at all. I also think you are a brilliant mum! #spectrumsundayAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07874932716700091773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-11291963360250645532018-01-06T15:22:43.345-08:002018-01-06T15:22:43.345-08:00I love this post! I dont think you did the wrong t...I love this post! I dont think you did the wrong thing by your kids at all. I also think you are a brilliant mum! #spectrumsundayAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07874932716700091773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-74529155612712783172018-01-06T13:09:37.036-08:002018-01-06T13:09:37.036-08:00Good luck Sarah if your children do rock the extra...Good luck Sarah if your children do rock the extra chromosome!<br /><br />Love you and good night.<br /><br />#spectrumsundayAdelaide Duponthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01490123934889071074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-1428285592075054722018-01-06T05:02:35.054-08:002018-01-06T05:02:35.054-08:00Ahh Ann. Sometimes it’s nice to just be Ann though...Ahh Ann. Sometimes it’s nice to just be Ann though. Not a parent, partner or a parent to kids with additional needs. I sometimes feel steered into that conversation but just don’t want to discuss it. I want ME time. I don’t want to talk about the struggles, get people’s praise or sympathy. <br /><br />Next time, try and get an overnight break. I thorougly recommend it ;-)<br /><br />#SpectrumSundayAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14862715632812821098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-86811978603434133852018-01-06T02:38:19.057-08:002018-01-06T02:38:19.057-08:00#SpectrumSunday#SpectrumSundaySensational Learning with Penguinhttps://sensationallearning.wordpress.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-80528280617672352852018-01-06T02:36:59.118-08:002018-01-06T02:36:59.118-08:00This was a good read, thank you! I can't see m...This was a good read, thank you! I can't see myself going to a spa anytime soon, lol, but if I did I'd probably prefer silence, in a situation like this. I generally like to talk with people, but... I wouldn't have wanted to know that she was pregnant when it's still so early, and the Down's comment would have been hard for me to not comment on. And she wouldn't have wanted me to tell her about the potential troubles ahead of her. <br />It's tricky though... Wanting to have conversations and interaction with people, but not always ready to take their stories on board (or sharing our own) xSensational Learning with Penguinhttps://sensationallearning.wordpress.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-22070433088683881832018-01-06T02:23:46.714-08:002018-01-06T02:23:46.714-08:00❤️❤️Sensational Learning with Penguinhttps://sensationallearning.wordpress.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-783214371217924502018-01-05T11:02:29.574-08:002018-01-05T11:02:29.574-08:00Beautifully written post, and il echo what everyon...Beautifully written post, and il echo what everyone else has said- you didn't hide it, you just chose to relax and not to worry a newly pregnant mum. Hope you enjoyed a well deserved spa treatment #spectrumsundayAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15821907110534480417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-38571837596854673222018-01-01T01:50:32.495-08:002018-01-01T01:50:32.495-08:00If I had been lying on that table, her oh-so-casua...If I had been lying on that table, her oh-so-casual comment about 'the Down's test' would have hit me as though she had stabbed me in the heart. <br />Because her words imply, almost explicitly state, that if her much wanted baby had been found to have DS it would suddenly have become disposable. She thinks a child like mine is not fit to live. She does not realise, in her ignorance, that she is existing in a bubble of false security.<br />It saddens, and worries, and angers me how this test, and it's results, are presented. A negative result is viewed as though you've avoided the worst possible fate that could befall your baby, and everything will be perfect and hunky-dory. It provides no such guarantee. It tests for only a few 'conditions' and yet so many others exist. And while Down's Syndrome isn't the future anyone would choose for their child, it is very far away from being the worst fate that could befall them, or their parents, for that matter. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09916447879637489939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-14959051821785095412017-12-31T02:17:48.090-08:002017-12-31T02:17:48.090-08:00You were there to relax and have fun, be a person ...You were there to relax and have fun, be a person instead of a mum for a few hours. You don't need to divulge every little bit of you and your children's lives. That's the great thing about anonymity, you can switch off for a while and no one need know. I hope you enjoyed your spa, sounds lovely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-63245167259224709722017-12-22T06:33:25.758-08:002017-12-22T06:33:25.758-08:00I think you did the right thing, their disability ...I think you did the right thing, their disability is not what defines them completely, and you didnt lie or hide anything, you just werent forthcoming with the full extent as you judged the situation and didnt want to scare Sarah off. I think had it be a scenario where Sarah stated she'd discovered her child had a disability you'd of course be forthcoming and inform her of your experience to potentially support her in her journey. As this wasnt the case, I dont think you should feel bad at all. She is a stranger afterall!<br />Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back next year! Merry Christmas Lovely!Mrs Mummy Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14843161341088512176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-79674679528306620882017-12-21T15:55:40.309-08:002017-12-21T15:55:40.309-08:00You did the right thing. You can talk about your c...You did the right thing. You can talk about your children if you want, but you don't have to. Not talking isn't exactly hiding. Don't feel bad xxStephs Two Girlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09592292485187553690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-68705341670862218382017-12-21T00:29:00.623-08:002017-12-21T00:29:00.623-08:00Here's how my conversations go:
Do you have ki...Here's how my conversations go:<br />Do you have kids?<br />Yes 5<br />Boys? Girls?<br />4 boys and 1 girl, but they're all adults now and have left home<br />Bet having 4 boys around was a handful, must be lovely having a girl, how old is she?<br />Almost 30<br />What? no grandkids. How many Grandkids? Bet you can't wait? <br /><br />And here we change the conversation depending on who I'm talking to.<br /><br />Nail bar, hairdresser, random person in coffee shop etc. Yes it will be lovely, followed by immediate questioning of their family.<br /><br />Work colleague, neighbour,potential friend etc. Actually the eldest is disabled and lives in a care home in the UK and I'm her step mother but have been 'Mum' to her for the past 18 years (so i can divert questions such as 'did you know when you were pregnant? etc)<br /><br />For me, it's not about being embarrassed or feeling awkward, it's just sometimes there's more to me than being defined by my children, regardless of their abilities and I find people feel the need to ask more about a disabled child than they do the other and I'd rather save them making statements like 'my sister works with kids like that, it's so rewarding'<br /><br />#TriumphantTaleschickenrubyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05731936852696584642noreply@blogger.com