tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post7621272308570569314..comments2024-03-18T05:37:19.683-07:00Comments on Rainbowsaretoobeautiful: The disassembled abandoned cake - autism eating out and aboutAnn Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-71394994791808030492017-07-24T04:56:10.178-07:002017-07-24T04:56:10.178-07:00I remember being a child with that problem, and ho...I remember being a child with that problem, and how confounded expectations for even the smallest thing felt like everything was dropping away beneath my feet. I still struggle with that somewhat. <br /><br />And I'm in the process of unpicking how I've been affected long-term by not having been met with understanding, so thank you for being so ready to see the situation from his point of view; it really does give him the best chance in life.<br /><br />I'm not sure what I'd have done, given that the family unit couldn't be split up. If you want to send payment afterwards, I don't know if such places even have facility to put that on their books. I guess having a bit of extra cash in your hand in future just in case could be the way to go.A S,Edinburghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05314417435412912409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-51524465674964846322017-03-19T15:39:44.048-07:002017-03-19T15:39:44.048-07:00We have often had to abandon ship! You totally did...We have often had to abandon ship! You totally did the right thing! x<br />PS. What you need is a Changing Places Toilet to fit the whole family unit in! That could make outings easier! I know a few people campaigning for those ;-)<br />Thank you so much for linking with my accessibility stories #AccessLinkyVaila, Inclusive Homehttp://www.theinclusivehome.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-68325800700671635782017-03-14T04:21:20.437-07:002017-03-14T04:21:20.437-07:00Don't worry about the cake, these things happe...Don't worry about the cake, these things happen, and thank you for sharing you account so honestly. My little boy recently had a meltdown because someone had given him chocolate biscuits and I had to take them off him as he eats a dairy free diet. It's not the same, I know, but the looks I got off the other parents as I was trying to wrestle the biscuits from him made me feel awful. I almost felt I needed to get on a box and explain the situation to the whole room! #KCACOLSAlong Came Poppyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02834492915449489292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-24925040551694815642017-03-04T14:04:44.543-08:002017-03-04T14:04:44.543-08:00Don't worry about the cake, the employee would...Don't worry about the cake, the employee would have come out, possibly huffed about having the clean up the cake but it would have been forgotten within a minute, cake costs £3.25 a slice to cover the costs of ones that are dropped or fall apart #KCACOLSAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03780327495755616156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-7045419192823723482017-03-04T08:18:58.846-08:002017-03-04T08:18:58.846-08:00This is exactly how E would react to something lik...This is exactly how E would react to something like a cake not being 'right' or expected. Exactly. We become experts at predicting these little things that we become aware of that don't even register to a lot of people. You did exactly the right thing. Anyone who thinks differently doesn't understand the situation properly. If I had a pound for every one of those 'Shall we just go?" moments... #SpectrumSundaySomeone's Mum (Danielle)https://www.blogger.com/profile/07601459041389161941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-27341022426218594822017-03-03T17:31:07.502-08:002017-03-03T17:31:07.502-08:00Yes, I don't think you should worry about the ...Yes, I don't think you should worry about the cake too much. I don't think anyone would have minded if they knew the circumstances, and you did the best thing you could do with the situation you had. There are more important things than a bit of broken cake, and I'm glad that things worked out okay in the end. #KCACOLSAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13006727330831002627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-20193057524260782592017-03-03T07:13:28.361-08:002017-03-03T07:13:28.361-08:00I wouldn't worry too much about the cake, even...I wouldn't worry too much about the cake, even though it's hard not to feel guilty. I'm sure they would understand. xx #KCACOLSLaura (Mummy Lauretta)http://www.mummylauretta.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-7159092476960921682017-03-03T04:24:07.702-08:002017-03-03T04:24:07.702-08:00Please don't beat yourself up over the cakes. ...Please don't beat yourself up over the cakes. You did what was best for you and your family in that moment. I am glad that you still had a good day x #KCACOLSSusan (you are my sunshine)http://www.youaremysunshine.menoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-4548240582453689102017-03-03T02:39:22.858-08:002017-03-03T02:39:22.858-08:00I would be exactly the same! I'd feel really r...I would be exactly the same! I'd feel really really guilty for days about it, but the main thing is you had a great day and your son was okay :) #KCACOLSAmiehttp://mumstheword.me.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-32551498546139702642017-03-02T15:36:04.516-08:002017-03-02T15:36:04.516-08:00Sending love. It isn't easy. We have had times...Sending love. It isn't easy. We have had times of apologising profusely, leaving money for shattered crockery and escaping as quickly as possible. I always hope that we live in times where more people understand autism and that they are possibly understanding that there was a reason for the whole situation. #KCACOLSRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06467953418264100545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-15276281613468380982017-03-02T12:14:05.593-08:002017-03-02T12:14:05.593-08:00its not easy - i think you did your best in the si...its not easy - i think you did your best in the situation you were in, don't be too hard on yourself x #kcacolsSarah Arthurwearshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09182659584731313050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-74237064762733578232017-03-02T11:58:28.535-08:002017-03-02T11:58:28.535-08:00Whoops, forgot #KCACOLSWhoops, forgot #KCACOLSAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08087978252038314340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-25156603656793411622017-03-02T11:58:06.634-08:002017-03-02T11:58:06.634-08:00Oh those moments. They can be so hard. Weighing ou...Oh those moments. They can be so hard. Weighing out the best of two not great options sucks. I would have done the same thing!!! My<br />Oldest has high functioning autism and when he gets fixated on something it can be so challenging. Leaving the situation is usually best for us too.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08087978252038314340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-23317609551314507152017-03-02T09:14:26.187-08:002017-03-02T09:14:26.187-08:00Yep, it felt that in a few more minutes, he'd ...Yep, it felt that in a few more minutes, he'd have a meltdown on our hands! Thanks for your understanding.Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-59656421917320079042017-03-02T09:13:38.100-08:002017-03-02T09:13:38.100-08:00I never blame David for how he acts in these type ...I never blame David for how he acts in these type of situations.. he is simply trying to cope and I can't and won't blame him for that. All I can do it try and help him through what he's dealing with and if it's not working today, take him away from what's causing him pain. Thanks so much for commenting. Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-19232239626276926042017-03-02T09:12:06.598-08:002017-03-02T09:12:06.598-08:00Thank you.Thank you.Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-48446132820233048732017-03-02T09:11:49.718-08:002017-03-02T09:11:49.718-08:00Imaginations now running wild with what else the s...Imaginations now running wild with what else the staff may have seen in the past......?!?!?!?Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-3350507791317116502017-03-02T09:11:01.781-08:002017-03-02T09:11:01.781-08:00Thanks Ger. I think we are used to coping with so...Thanks Ger. I think we are used to coping with some things that maybe would spoil the day if it happened to other people. I suspect if we had stayed that's exactly what may have happened. Sometimes living with autism means knowing when to cut your loses, heck sometimes that's just going out with kids! Thanks for commentingAnn Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-6468156836763091142017-03-02T09:04:50.390-08:002017-03-02T09:04:50.390-08:00I'm surprised that an event like this didn'...I'm surprised that an event like this didn't put a dampener on the day but that just goes to show how well you both handled the sitation. You were right to leave and who cares about not paying. Don't let guilt take you over when you absolutely did the right thing for you family #kcacolsGer Walshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06173763779404312188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-38627217110907033862017-03-01T22:49:31.020-08:002017-03-01T22:49:31.020-08:00I wouldn't feel guilty about the cake, you hav...I wouldn't feel guilty about the cake, you have to do what's right for you and your family, that's all any of us can do! #KCACOLSBlissful Domesticationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16096801682731000443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-75236843507897401952017-03-01T15:32:11.413-08:002017-03-01T15:32:11.413-08:00My brother is autistic and growing up we had many ...My brother is autistic and growing up we had many days out like this. He is slightly better now but crowded spaces are still a no go! #KCACOLSAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16905518870567742890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-84945219985687922412017-03-01T13:13:15.939-08:002017-03-01T13:13:15.939-08:00Sounds like you did the right thing. Please don...Sounds like you did the right thing. Please don't feel guilty #KCACOLSNadia - Scandi Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10175869969003758894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-22281087546138881422017-02-28T11:44:16.921-08:002017-02-28T11:44:16.921-08:00I shouldn't worry, I'm sure if the circums...I shouldn't worry, I'm sure if the circumstances were different, you would have paid in the usual way - these things happen and I'm sure the staff would have agreed had they been party to the incident #KCACOLSNicky Kentisbeerhttps://notjustthe3ofus.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-50497453599419647602017-02-27T13:42:14.604-08:002017-02-27T13:42:14.604-08:00That member of staff has probably seen a lot worse...That member of staff has probably seen a lot worse :) Definitely don't feel guilty. You read the situation and took the right action #KCACOLSClaire Hall - Tin Box Travellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16944797880645969007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-11217825942780982662017-02-27T13:26:50.611-08:002017-02-27T13:26:50.611-08:00I think it sounds like you very much did the right...I think it sounds like you very much did the right thing. #KCACOLSAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08519232434362137174noreply@blogger.com