tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post7013980388642620889..comments2024-03-29T02:24:39.165-07:00Comments on Rainbowsaretoobeautiful: It's time to tell himAnn Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-18451993675143367312017-11-07T16:50:21.658-08:002017-11-07T16:50:21.658-08:00Our little Mr is only 5, and to be honest we'r...Our little Mr is only 5, and to be honest we're not sure at what stage he will be aware of the difference he has to others (partly due to him being delayed also). With him being in a SEN school we think he is in the right place to learn of differences. I'm sure, at some point we will feel he is ready.<br /><br />When we do though I want to make sure he understands its not a bad thing, and that everyone is different. He should not be scared, feel bad or be ashamed of the difference and that he should celebrate it even. I just hope I can explain that when the time comes.The Autism Dada (Sean)http://www.theautismdada.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-74419359797755614822017-04-09T08:57:50.440-07:002017-04-09T08:57:50.440-07:00It's amazing how self aware children can be is...It's amazing how self aware children can be isn't it - good luck! #postsfromtheheartCrummy Mummyhttp://www.crummymummy.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-35014647510113024952017-04-09T07:34:34.504-07:002017-04-09T07:34:34.504-07:00Our decision to tell Number One, was taken out of ...Our decision to tell Number One, was taken out of our hands. She lost her vision due to anxiety a couple of years ago, and was prodded and poked many times, she heard the words the first time from a doctor and asked his what it meant. At the time I was cross and felt unprepared but in hindsight it probably saved me a lot of worry about looking for a 'perfect' moment to tell her. Share has never worried about her diagnosis, on the contrary she is proud of it. There is novel called 'M is for Autism' that she has read recently and loved. I know it made her feel more understood. I hope all goes well, when you tell Anthony, I know you will do an amazing job of it #PosrsFromTheHeartAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06645039201241360814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-43344683196387620562017-04-04T11:06:47.391-07:002017-04-04T11:06:47.391-07:00I can't imagine what I would do in that situat...I can't imagine what I would do in that situation. It's must be very difficult for you to know what to say to try and make things better. Your clearly a wonderful, caring parent and I hope things get easier for your little boy as he grows #postsfromtheheartAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16905518870567742890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-82428228557271658562016-12-03T02:00:04.766-08:002016-12-03T02:00:04.766-08:00I come to you with no advice. Just hugs and warth ...I come to you with no advice. Just hugs and warth and healing light as you raise this special boy of yours through caring and understanding and self love. May he come to love himself as much as you love him! Or more! :) and <3's. #EatSleepBlogRTLisa Pomerantzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15508476122467360712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-30389596110260225492016-11-28T02:06:51.313-08:002016-11-28T02:06:51.313-08:00Autistic how silly is that by Lynda Farrington Wil...Autistic how silly is that by Lynda Farrington Wilson & The Survival Guide for Kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (And Their Parents) by Elizabeth Verdick are both really good books. Thank you for linking up to #EatSleepBlogRT 🌸 Spectrum Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223279993291949320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-63782151059815465952016-09-07T03:14:48.815-07:002016-09-07T03:14:48.815-07:00Heartbreaking. There are times Tyger says things ...Heartbreaking. There are times Tyger says things that make me feel so awful for him. I've been dropping the fact he's autistic into conversation since he got the diagnosis. I don't know if that's the right thing to do, though. I think we're all fumbling round in the dark a bit.<br /><br />At least he acknowledges he doesn't actually want to die. <br /><br />#SpectrumSundayLady Nymhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17721420961173930843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-18609759670862710952016-09-04T16:17:38.053-07:002016-09-04T16:17:38.053-07:00Such a moving post. My heart ached for your sweet ...Such a moving post. My heart ached for your sweet boy, and how he saw himself in that moment. I am so glad that you were able to calm him and that he realized he was just very frustrated. What a clever and intuitive boy you have there. He will continue to grow and learn about himself and that everyone is unique, just as they are supposed to be. #SpectrumsundayJade-Marie : Tiptoes cleverhttp://www.tiptoesclever.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-34675973748907401592016-09-04T14:23:15.473-07:002016-09-04T14:23:15.473-07:00Wow, that was a tough read. It's not really so...Wow, that was a tough read. It's not really something I've ever thought about as we are so far away from that challenge right now. I hope goes well, and your family have all the support in place to help your son through this and help him understand. Good luck <br />#SpectrumSundayStories About Autismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08111412180104679087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-62087531862416305772016-09-04T07:27:10.284-07:002016-09-04T07:27:10.284-07:00Anne we had help from our psychologist team when w...Anne we had help from our psychologist team when we did begin to use the word autism. Initially it helped but then he started to say things like stupid autism and we had to work on his self confidence. We also used some books to help us. It is heartbreaking when they say things like this. #SpectrumSundaySpectrum Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223279993291949320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-3999342362288807992016-09-04T05:20:00.259-07:002016-09-04T05:20:00.259-07:00How heartbreaking to hear those words. I'm not...How heartbreaking to hear those words. I'm not sure whether my son will ever be capable of such communication but if he does become aware of his diagnosis I need to ensure I am well prepared #SpectrumSundayAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14862715632812821098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-34966621505475773002016-09-04T00:48:26.037-07:002016-09-04T00:48:26.037-07:00For my son, we always talked about his autism, eve...For my son, we always talked about his autism, even from his diagnosis at age 4 so he's always known although he's only just recently realised what this means. But we felt our daughter didn't need to know straightaway when she was first diagnosed aspergers at the age of 5. When she was 8 we started to realise she knew something was different about her and when she started to lose confidence in herself because she couldn't understand what was going on, that's when we told her. She took a while to completely understand but now she calls herself an Aspie with pride. She likes being different and telling her about her diagnosis has actually empowered her. I was so scared to have that initial conversation but it was the best thing we ever did - I hope it goes as well for you too xKirstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14645347058596682545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-31842396536085461692016-04-04T13:09:16.766-07:002016-04-04T13:09:16.766-07:00I know I have this in the future. My boy has been ...I know I have this in the future. My boy has been sobbing this week if I say a word out of place in one of the set phrases I have to say to him (it's hard to explain. He speaks well but is very repetitive and has certain rituals he likes when it comes to speech - set questions and answers that he repeats) He has been absolutely sobbing and sobbing if I say a word wrong or forget exactly what to do/say. He seems so anxious and I don't know what to do for him - when I imagine him older, more aware and having those feelings; I know I will have to face something like this one day. I have no advice, because I am only 6 months into this and my boy is only 3. We have no support yet either. I hope that telling him helps your boy and that understanding his difference helps him deal with it. xxx #SpectrumSundaySomeone's Mum (Danielle)https://www.blogger.com/profile/07601459041389161941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-10222468388768024882016-04-04T13:08:54.615-07:002016-04-04T13:08:54.615-07:00I know I have this in the future. My boy has been ...I know I have this in the future. My boy has been sobbing this week if I say a word out of place in one of the set phrases I have to say to him (it's hard to explain. He speaks well but is very repetitive and has certain rituals he likes when it comes to speech - set questions and answers that he repeats) He has been absolutely sobbing and sobbing if I say a word wrong or forget exactly what to do/say. He seems so anxious and I don't know what to do for him - when I imagine him older, more aware and having those feelings; I know I will have to face something like this one day. I have no advice, because I am only 6 months into this and my boy is only 3. We have no support yet either. I hope that telling him helps your boy and that understanding his difference helps him deal with it. xxx #SpectrumSundaySomeone's Mum (Danielle)https://www.blogger.com/profile/07601459041389161941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-73650655281330612852016-03-27T07:50:46.795-07:002016-03-27T07:50:46.795-07:00I haven't even thought about this stage yet, I...I haven't even thought about this stage yet, I imagine it is a very difficult stage to go through! Good luck, and I hope he takes it ok and helps him to understand himself a little better! Thank you for linking up to #spectrumsunday lovely, hope to see you again this week xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04886733520652046512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-16157225463123829012016-03-26T13:15:51.138-07:002016-03-26T13:15:51.138-07:00My nephew is 12 and has Dysprxia and ADHD, he'...My nephew is 12 and has Dysprxia and ADHD, he's know those words for some time but I think it took time for him to make a connection between the words and the actual problems he had. I think you'll be surprised at how well he copes, it may give him some peace of mind knowing there are words and reasons that explain his naughty brain. Good luck with it either way.<br /><br />www.queerlittlefamily.co.ukBread // Queer Little Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564719450685886698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-89876461622253234892016-03-25T14:29:52.866-07:002016-03-25T14:29:52.866-07:00Wow, such a powerful post. I'm sending you lo...Wow, such a powerful post. I'm sending you love and support for the difficult times ahead!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01013015348426129483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-35918331696165539212016-03-25T02:51:31.450-07:002016-03-25T02:51:31.450-07:00My heart goes out to you. I became very emotional ...My heart goes out to you. I became very emotional when I read this very powerful and touching post. I felt such a tug when I read those words your son uttered. It must have such an emotional time for you as well. Sending you hugs. #abitofeverythingAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15096315867430850466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-23953714420660885292016-03-25T02:22:55.474-07:002016-03-25T02:22:55.474-07:00Same here, Anthony's younger brother goes to a...Same here, Anthony's younger brother goes to an autism school that we all drop him at every morning. We say the words all the time but not specifically put them together for Anthony. We've just made a social story for him. He really likes these. Maybe some books to follow too. If you have any you like, feel free to share the titles here! <br /><br />Thanks for commenting. Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-41664058168283072792016-03-25T02:20:31.766-07:002016-03-25T02:20:31.766-07:00It really does. Big hugs (but only if you like the...It really does. Big hugs (but only if you like them) to everyone. There are some links above for others about when and how to tell kids you might like too.Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-83983971825749489642016-03-25T02:18:59.268-07:002016-03-25T02:18:59.268-07:00Awwh poor Tyger. Anthony sometimes says that kind ...Awwh poor Tyger. Anthony sometimes says that kind of thing like 'I'm trying I just can't sit still' and I tell him that I believe him, because I do and it's important he knows I'm there for him when he finds things difficult. It's like I've told him to always tell me the truth no matter what so that he never has to hide who he is. <br /><br />We must say the words autism and ADHD everyday but we've never associated them with himself for him.<br /><br />We need to now. <br /><br />Gosh I do love them.Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-18392416060539016372016-03-25T02:15:55.036-07:002016-03-25T02:15:55.036-07:00We must have been drip feeding it for years, we...We must have been drip feeding it for years, we've never hidden it. He's also talked about some kids being 'like' or 'not like' him too. Which I found very insightful. Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-26889345577347652262016-03-25T02:14:29.221-07:002016-03-25T02:14:29.221-07:00We say the words autism and ADHD etc several times...We say the words autism and ADHD etc several times a day but I don't think we've ever out it together for him. His brother even goes to an autism school. It's not new... but it's not been said. People, I'm definitely nervous! Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-86776230677680024952016-03-25T02:12:29.645-07:002016-03-25T02:12:29.645-07:00Thanks, I hope it makes him feel better...eeek Thanks, I hope it makes him feel better...eeek Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349668044326313600.post-71554351553480818272016-03-25T02:11:36.284-07:002016-03-25T02:11:36.284-07:00Every child must have difficulties understanding t...Every child must have difficulties understanding themselves and their emotions. I think this just caught me off guard. Thanks for stopping by.Ann Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024569661733250122noreply@blogger.com